rumitoid wrote:
If all criminal stats strongly suggests that young Black males between the ages of 18 and 28 are the usual perpetrators of crime, why not profile them? It seems reasonable. Why not Stop and Frisk? Most of those are in the same class for special consideration for Affirmative Action. If affirming a Black over a White by just by being Black, is right and wrong. We do have s******c r****m in this country, yet a thumb on the scale for a certain race seems wrong. My dad told me about signs that read when he was a young man, "Irish need not apply." It appeared to be quite common. But he was White. Lose the accent and he could be a WASP. Every immigrant group that came to America fought against discrimination--yet did not get special consideration! Almost all immigrants came here drawn by American ideals and values. A chance to actually be free. They would do anything to be part of that liberty. Lowering the bar, such as amnesty for i******s, is good and bad. Perhaps confusing, yet enough to comment on.
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What we have today in this country is "racial snobbery". I'll tell you why, but before I do, let me give you a little background about myself, to explain what qualifies me as someone who is "an expert" in identifying racial snobbery and the outcomes because of racial snobbery. I’m white, but not an angry white guy. I am, however, a white guy who has issues that are always percolating and this article rubbed a hot button. I’m not trying to replace r****m with snobbery because r****m in any form is d********g and unacceptable. And, all of us must accept that there are people who are r****ts and deserve that label. But I am giving the rest of us the benefit of the doubt with the belief and understanding that none of us – Minority, Women or White – is intrinsically a r****t, homophobe, n**i, w***e s*********t, or misogynist.
Essentially, in my view our society is broken down as follows: Black, Hispanic and other people of color fall into the category of Minority-America. White men are White-America. Then, last but not least, Women. For reference, when reading this, Women can be inserted in place of Minority-America as Women usually perceive or have the same problems with White-America as does Minority-America. For that matter, homophobe, n**i, misogynist, or any other category are the usual labels White-America gets from Minority-America and Women. (I guess Minority-America does not ever have a misogynists or a n**i). In some cases, those views may be an accurate description, however, I’ve NEVER sat down to purposely lay myself out to be a n**i, w***e s*********t, or misogynist, so I resent whenever I hear Minority-American or Women throw out any of those labels in a description of any White-American.
I grew up with my younger sister in East Haven, Ct. My Italian/Polish-American parents were married at a time when marrying someone outside of their ethnic group was deemed highly disrespectful to their family circle and often times frowned upon or scorned by their peers. Mom and Dad and their combine ten brothers and sisters are products of the Great Depression, WWII and the Korean War. My grandparents immigrated to this country in the late 1890’s. My Mother at 99 years young has just one remaining sister from that family. I’ll be 72 October 1. I’m a home owner in Oakland Park, Fl. I graduated in 1996 from the University of San Francisco with a B.S. Degree in Information Systems Management. I joined the Navy at 18 to avoid the Vietnam era draft, retiring as a Senior Chief Petty Officer serving from 1965 to 1986. I have been married for 35 years. We are empty nesters, but I have two estranged kids aged 43 and 49 from my first marriage living in other states. However, I am lucky enough to have a wonderful step-daughter who I’ve known for 38 years. She lives six blocks from us. She is an office manager for small maritime/marina business. There are three grandchildren all under 18 years old. I’m a life time learner, I have been lucky enough to travel the world extensively while in the Navy and also with my spouse. I’m a well read, opinionated, registered Republican. I have v**ed in every national and local e******n since I was first eligible in 1967.
This will cause controversy, but Black, Hispanic, others of color, Women and White leaders all purposely perpetuate problems between races and ethnic groups. These leaders usually take the position that “it is the other guy” who has to change without looking at themselves to be the change agent. For instance, when will Minority-America and Women and their leaders do something other than COMPLAIN about White-America? It is a false narrative when Minority-America and Women believe that ONLY White-America needs to change their attitude towards others and all will be right in the world without taking the giant leap – take an honest look at themselves in the mirror and at least acknowledge the possibility that they may have to change as well. To Minority-America and Women because they label White-America as they please – it MUST be the unquestioned, absolute true.
I call this racial snobbery because there is no alternative behavior change discussed by minorities and women, just accusations always slamming home that "White-America only" are the bad guys and need to change. Minority-America needs to study the issues that create a gap in understanding and formulate a comprehensive immigration reform plan for both Minority-America and White-America. Illegal border crossing is one area Hispanic-Americans could step up to the plate. There is no doubt that there needs to have a viable plan for dealing with i*****l a***ns because it is the right and humane thing to do – we are the United States of America and we should be able to provide humane procedures for dealing with i*****l a***ns – but always remember that these people are first and foremost LAW BREAKERS. It would be equally right and humane thing to do, for Minority-Americans, mainly Hispanics, to extol loudly that when entering America, entering it legally is the preferred AND ONLY appropriate way. I have NEVER heard a Hispanic leader voice this viewpoint; all they do is ride the fence in silence – which is tacit approval and endorsement of illegal border crossing.
Minority-America usually fails to offer up something to compel as a comprehensive change for Minority-America. On the other hand, White-America deludes itself into believing that by “telling them what they want to hear” alone will win over the Minority-America overnight. Yet again Minority-America fails to even offer up a quid-quo-pro let alone something solid that they can do to reach out with a mindset that would be beneficial to finding solutions or stating what would help White-America to better understand, and win over Minority-America. Pointing fingers is always easier than attempting a solution. Just play the “blame the other guy” mentality AND don’t provide White-America with empirical evidence of your claims.
So, speaking as a leader one who has over 50 years’ experience working with people from different walks of life, ethnic and racial groups - in the Navy for 20 years as well as when employed by three Fortune 50 Companies for over 30 years - If you want to have the respect of everyone/anyone, you need to be firm and fair. Firm in your beliefs; and fair when espousing them with the ability to endorse and provide possible solutions - finger pointing and playing the blame game has to end as it serves no purpose.
Another contributing factor to the problem of racial snobbery is the way some writers/pundits portray other groups of people. Some are always capitalized, such as Asian or Hispanic or African-American; while others are not, mainly w****s, caucasians, women. I was born here, so why am I not considered a White-American or White instead of white? Or my wife, my step-daughter, my mother or my sister referred to as Women instead of women? And by the way, African-American women double-down because they fall into two groups: Minority-Americans and Women.
Racial snobbery fails to recognize how White-America has closed or at least narrowed the gap between peoples who were once ens***ed or when immigrating to this country. Minority-Americans and Women were once stupidly and inhumanely called (to name a few) n****r, coon, egg-plant heads, harps, kikes, wops, polack; broads or babes, or q***r or ferry boy. All of these are ugly references.
My knowledge and remembrance of history reminds me that it was a two-way give and take over decades and that it was not an easy task for all concerned. Growing up and during my first few years in the Navy, it was common practice for me to called wop (which does not imply that others have to yield calmly to ethnic slurs just because I did). I learned to deal with it, but it ultimately became a quid-quo-pro situation. Today, I fondly recall those days and joke about them. My bet is that others have either experienced the same thing or know of someone who has. It is not that uncommon. I'm NOT advocating that an African-American should endure and accept being called a coon or n****r – at any time. And, the use of those two words is offensive, but without using them my argument would have no substance or backbone. I could substitute the word kike for a Jew, or beaner for Mexican.
Some may not see things as clearly as I believe I have. Racial snobs continue with an abrasive attitude toward White-America. Editors wouldn’t/don't pay a dime for milquetoast writing, so pundits know that negative controversy sells and promotes disharmony between groups. Minority-America leaders could be a shining light for both Minority-America and White-America. But instead, Minority-America pundits are dimmer switch’s in a world needing enlightenment and provocative leadership from a well-educated, well respected women and men – from all groups. Pundits fail miserably at this. They cause new leaders to become just like themselves in the Minority-American community to follow the same narrow-minded thinking rather than creating leaders who relish seeking guidance from someone who took a provocative stance against the norm. These are people who never look for or promote the positive. Furthermore, when a Minority-American attempts to bridge the gap between White-America, most times they are met with demeaning remarks by their own kind – being labeled as t*****rs. Again, there are these labels that Minority-America and Women throw around so easily. Isn’t it enough that White-America has mislabeled every ethnic group that has ever entered this country?
I have concluded that my grandchildren, their friends and their children will have to contend with the same type of racial snobbery for years to come unless there is a significant change. Not just from White-America, but from everyone. And, while there are pundits who get to publish their beliefs and wisdom in a well-respected newspaper or a blog, there will NEVER be change. Everyone will end up dealing with the same type of subtle stereotyping and snobbery that I have endured for my entire adult life (one that racial snobbery perpetuates) and will do so until I die. Subtle snobbery is worse than outright direct snobbery. I lost promotions to minorities and women – as I was told it was to level the playing field. Leveling the playing field has cost me, but racial snobs NEVER recognize that for me and other White-Americans who've had to endure the same fate. I not complaining because I am proud that I’ve helped contribute to a better society. However, WHEN WILL IT EVER STOP? When will one group (White-America) always have to be the one that – in my view – always be the one told that it is the singular fault for problems. Even if they are the singular fault, there is NEVER a corresponding, cogent, well thought out solution from Minority-America or Women.
I have worked hard all my life to get where I am today, with no special assistance from anyone. I assume that there are a lot of people from any group who also fall into this same hard-working category. Yet, I have constantly been told that it is me – the White guy - who has to do all the changing toward bridging racial and ethnic gaps. I am tired of all of it. I have made changes during my life, happily for the most part though I admit sometimes it took a lot of self-re-evaluation that was not easy to understand or enact. But I did it. So, Minority-America should not be so magnanimous with their criticism of White-America. There should be enough leaders to go around that young White-America as well as young Minority-America can look to as shining examples of how to do things the right and humane way. Yet, I see no change on the horizon, especially with the group of Minority-American leaders there are today (ignorant White leaders fall into the same category) who only blame and point fingers at one group of people -- and the group that Minority-America and Women always point at so ugly and inhumanely is White-America.
I am not sure how many others feel the way I do. I don’t have the means in which to conduct a study/survey necessary to prove my theory. I am not sure it would be worth my time to undertake given that Minority-American and White-American leaders have the means and should be the ones that provide that empirical information. There may be significantly more that are ready, on both sides, to do some unconventional, out of the box thinking to get to a comprehensive solution to current race problems and the means to head off new ones for immigration and racial tensions. One solution sometimes sires the doggedness to come together to labor through other problems.
Note: I used some really derogatory – frankly highly offensive - terms for describing people. But without using them, I would just be just a wishy-washy, white guy blowing out gas with no substance. I won’t apologize to anyone offended by those terms just for that reason – but I want to emphasis the day-to-day, off-hand use of those terms is ugly and should never be used or found acceptable.