To Searching,,,, right there, IS how it is done,,, she adds to what I say, and sparks more that my male mind erases.
To a smaller extent, all people have those PTSD survival reactions,,, you have to train your mind OUT of it. People who haven't been loved have it worse. It is what Jesus said was the MOST IMPORTANT commandment,,, "Love each other." Because when you react to survive, you are a victim to your environment, and you survive. When you connect with people, and break the power of someones hurtful words, (especially ones not meant for you) then you can see what their hurt is. That is very powerful, but like I tell my kids, some people cannot love, they are too afraid.
If you are with a man who scares you, you may be with the wrong man. I don't think god requires you to stay with a man like that, you deserve to be loved, you don't have to settle for less. It is incumbent on your mate to come up to that level too, or he is at fault.
You are responsible for where you find yourself, you are at fault if you accept it. You can be "Responsible for your life, without being at Fault for it." (A hard thing to get your mind around) Be responsible, not at fault. Someone says something and you think you are at fault, then your survival mechanism takes over, and you feel bad. That is all fake, we don't have a better word for that than "satantic", be responsible, recognize what is satanic, and let that go, because it isn't meant for you, your "fault" has been purchased and erased.........
rhomin57 wrote:
I agree with some of that, but having been married to a Viet Nam vet who woke up in a start every two hours at night, and met you with an instant taiquando stance ready to fight because you walked up behind them and tickled his sides; that is PTSD. Both my Grandfathers were in WWII as young men. One would be resting or sleeping and in just and instant he would jerk and be standing up on full alert. My other Grandfather would wake up in Cold Sweats with a far away look in his eye. It would be a minute before his was to himself again. That is PTSD.
There are lesser versions of PTSD for the rest of us like what your talking about, still the same disorder. Both Grandfathers gradually grew out of their PTSD as they got into their 60's and 70's years of age. That's a long time to suffer though as your put it.
I do enjoy your wisdom~
I agree with some of that, but having been married... (
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