I admire it in others, and strive to improve, myself. I fear that I am not quite, yet, capable of turning the other cheek. I, quite frankly, am on OPP, partly, to deal with my own anger issues, and volatility.

Being able to contemplate a response...taking my time, is an important asset, for me, of the OPP. I can contain my anger, edit my initial thoughts, if necessary, or void an angry post of mine...all before I hit the "send" function. Until I hit that button, I try to use reason, instead of emotion, as much as possible.

Face to face confrontations do not always allow me to contain any anger or frustrations I might be experiencing. I am not as nice, sometimes, in person, as I may appear on these threads (or not). As a grandfather, I do not like myself when I get angry. My Family deserves a "kinder, gentler" me.

Only you, Rumi, could have gotten this post out of me. I will see if I can forgive you. :roll: :wink: :lol:

I try to use humor every where I go. I have found humor not only helps calm my savage beast, it often defuses tense situations involving others. I've been criticized for using humor during crisis situations but afterward I can show them how their mind was taken off the situation just long enough to " take a breath ". I meet violence with humor whenever I can. It doesn't apply to everything though. Like this " I thought pacifist was a person who insisted on using pacifiers on crying babies ".