The sad thing about the blacks is they used to have strong family ties, but when they began to receive welfare, in order to get more money, the father (at first) reluctantly left. That left the kids with no father figure to look up to, boys began to join gangs and 'look up' to the leader. It has really broken that segment of the population down, and now they are starting the same thing with poor white families. Destroy the family, and it's easier to enslave the people.

I am not defending the crime, etc. that goes on in the ghettos, or among their population. The black on black crime is extremely high, and very tragic. Besides taking away the father, it has taken away the pride one has in themselves, and in doing a good job. I happen to be white, but old enough to be able to see what welfare has done to families.

The sad thing about the blacks is they used to have strong family ties, but when they began to receive welfare, in order to get more money, the father (at first) reluctantly left. That left the kids with no father figure to look up to, boys began to join gangs and 'look up' to the leader. It has really broken that segment of the population down, and now they are starting the same thing with poor white families. Destroy the family, and it's easier to enslave the people.

I am not defending the crime, etc. that goes on in the ghettos, or among their population. The black on black crime is extremely high, and very tragic. Besides taking away the father, it has taken away the pride one has in themselves, and in doing a good job. I happen to be white, but old enough to be able to see what welfare has done to families.

You are right....but, history says that they have never had a strong family unit. They come from tribal mentality and have not changed. Tribal Mentality is a trait that was extremely useful for the development of the species, children were raised by whomever was available and of course monogamy in such groups were not only undesirable but did little for the survival of the tribe. Women were kept pregnant as often as possible and by the chief or in order the underlings. This ensured growth of the tribe. And since there was no sense of Momma and Papa, parents were relieved of the total responsibility of raising any specific child. Children essentially made their own rules and by trial and error, (if punished or not) adopted favorable outcome. This was also beneficial because of infant morbidly was so high. The loss of a child was a tribe loss and not a personal loss. In other words, all children receives a variable rules with little or no enforcement. And should a child perish, then the tribe performed a ritual and disposed of the body. And I will not go into detail of how some tribes managed this....

This is another reason that there is no shame in welfare, the tribe provides for the needs of all. Hunters brought game, women were gathers, meals were shared as a communal activity. Even huts were communal property. I could go on, but I am tired. It is very late and I need some shut eye.

Actually it made me stronger, as we believe, all things are part of God's plan. When bad things happen, we are not privy to why. I never held it against the kid and don't even recall being angry with him. I did, however, avoid him and in fact most of the other kids. I still live in the same town, and I do remember when he and his family moved away. I was not happy about his departure, but I have often thought about him.... and I always prayed that he would someday change his opinion about me.

Your story is not too unusual. What is unusual is your taking the time to talk about it. I admire that! I too, have done many wrongs in my life and some I still can not find the strength to talk about. I have said hurtful things that I am certain harmed others. Of course I always apologized, but as my wonderful Papa taught me.... Words are the biggest and strongest weapons ever used. Worse than a bomb, worse than a bullet, and it stings worse than any cut. All physical harm; a cut, a shot.... all heal. But, once words are spoken they can never be recalled the pain and harm is done.

I understand how your felt. Very intelligent or like me, an average woman with average intelligence can easily fall into wrong actions or thought. I worked in a hospital for a few years. In the start, the patients were only thought of by their particular condition. It was not until after the third week or so, after I spent time talking with them that those people became individuals and their conditions became a side bar, something that needed to be cured.