Your Opinion (Page 2): I find it alot easier to control my mouth than my brain. It's my nature to analyze every detail of life so it's near impossible for me to forget much of...

Secret Alchemist Loc: Carthage, TX

I find it alot easier to control my mouth than my brain. It's my nature to analyze every detail of life so it's near impossible for me to forget much of anything. I just mentally label memories as "problem" or "not a problem" and let them go where they will in my mind. I only speak about things that are a problem so it doesn't matter what I remember.

alex Loc: michigan now imperial beach californa

Brian Devon wrote:

Most of us have a number of memories we would like to remove from our heads. The only person I know who was successful at removing memories was Tommy Lee Jones in, "Men in Black". However that was science fiction farce and not real life. If you come up with a way to remove undesired memories please let me know. My wife would like to know that too...being that she remembers every wrong thing that I have ever done. She says it's a woman thing......

you are lucky my wife even remembers things I have never done

Boo_Boo Loc: Jellystone

Thank you for your comment, but my question is about forgiving. Can a person forgive someone without forgetting the issue? Or are we hard wired so that we can not forget but still forgive and not carry a grudge. My view is that in order to truly forgive then forgetting it, letting the grudge go is imperative. My neighbor says that you can forgive and not carry a grudge, but you are incapable of forgetting. I am beginning to think that the average person is not able to forget what they consider an injustice. One person actually told me that if a person is affronted that it is their fault and not that of the other person. I find that to be rather odd. Most people see my neighbor's view as correct and thus far people see mine as an impossibility.

Secret Alchemist wrote:

I find it alot easier to control my mouth than my brain. It's my nature to analyze every detail of life so it's near impossible for me to forget much of anything. I just mentally label memories as "problem" or "not a problem" and let them go where they will in my mind. I only speak about things that are a problem so it doesn't matter what I remember.

Secret Alchemist Loc: Carthage, TX

ginnyt wrote:

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Which is more honorable, to remember an injustice but overlook it for a higher purpose or to blindly trust someone because you've truly forgotten the harm they've caused you?

Boo_Boo Loc: Jellystone

Is it really a matter of honor? Strange perspective. Never thought of it in that way. Anyway, I trust. People to me are all inherently good. Not many people want to cause harm to others. Yes I know that there are some people that are amoral. But, those people are few and far between. The average individual will not go out of their way to cause harm. Also, when a person does cause harm by oversight or an unkind word, it is their responsibility to recognize the error and tend to it. To hold a grudge is a personal election; but that is just my opinion. Again, your response is appreciated. I am still back to the question on forgiving.

Secret Alchemist wrote:

Which is more honorable, to remember an injustice but overlook it for a higher purpose or to blindly trust someone because you've truly forgotten the harm they've caused you?

bahmer

ginnyt wrote:

I have a discussion going on with my neighbor. She says that when you forgive someone it is alright not to forget. I argue that when you truly forgive then you must forget the transgression. What is you opinion? I know that there is no science behind this, just me wondering if I am unusual in my belief.

Thanks

You have to both forgive and forget in my opinion otherwise you will dwell on the incident and it will eat you alive. You will always want to get even if you don't forget.

Alicia Loc: NYC

ginnyt wrote:

For me, I think less of the bad things and concentrate on the good. The bad memory fades. Practice will make the faded memory less and less important until one day, you do not think about it anymore. I did not say that complete forgiveness happens in a day or two; sometimes years passes before you no longer think about the mistake. So perhaps I am unusual; but I also do meditation to train the mind.

Thank you for your comment.

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Ginnyt, I think that if one "tries" to forget something negative it keeps it in one's mind longer. My brain is constructed so that (usually) within a year, I've forgotten it until someone else brings it up. Even then, the negative feelings really don't come back - rather a feeling of sadness. This is only momentary. I have trouble with the doctor in trying to give them my medical history.

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alex Loc: michigan now imperial beach californa

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Boo_Boo Loc: Jellystone

Alex,

I am interested in your thoughts and opinions; but nothing came through but blank space. Tell me what you are trying to upload and I can perhaps help. My job before I retired was in computers.

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alex Loc: michigan now imperial beach californa

ginnyt wrote:

Alex,

I am interested in your thoughts and opinions; but nothing came through but blank space. Tell me what you are trying to upload and I can perhaps help. My job before I retired was in computers.

there was a series of pictures that didn't print out I was trying to import from another site but it didn't work but at the bottom of the blank space I explain that it didn't work sorry about that

Boo_Boo Loc: Jellystone

Thanks. The only way to import pix is using the bracket [ and follow by img followed by bracket then insert pix when done use bracket back slash img then bracket. Or you can save the pix to file and use the file/picture attachment capability. Better to just insert the url.

[quote=alex]there was a series of pictures that didn't print out I was trying to import from another site but it didn't work but at the bottom of the blank space I explain that it didn't work sorry about that[/quote]

Btfkr Loc: just outside the Mile High City

ginnyt wrote:

I have a discussion going on with my neighbor. She says that when you forgive someone it is alright not to forget. I argue that when you truly forgive then you must forget the transgression. What is you opinion? I know that there is no science behind this, just me wondering if I am unusual in my belief.

Thanks

The only person I can change is myself, therefore I must change my attitude to truly forgive. I must be rid of my resentment. I don't think it is possible for me to forgive without "forgetting". Thankfully my spiritual program has "tools" to help me with just such a problem. Sadly, sometimes it takes more than just a while to be free of the resentment however.

Tyster

Brian Devon wrote:

Most of us have a number of memories we would like to remove from our heads. The only person I know who was successful at removing memories was Tommy Lee Jones in, "Men in Black". However that was science fiction farce and not real life. If you come up with a way to remove undesired memories please let me know. My wife would like to know that too...being that she remembers every wrong thing that I have ever done. She says it's a woman thing......

The reason men (husbands) don't remember their transgressions is that we are smart enough not to waste two brains!

alex Loc: michigan now imperial beach californa

[quote=ginnyt]Thanks. The only way to import pix is using the bracket [ and follow by img followed by bracket then insert pix when done use bracket back slash img then bracket. Or you can save the pix to file and use the file/picture attachment capability. Better to just insert the url.[/quote]

in other words just forget it, I'll never remember that

bahmer

[quote=ginnyt]Thanks. The only way to import pix is using the bracket [ and follow by img followed by bracket then insert pix when done use bracket back slash img then bracket. Or you can save the pix to file and use the file/picture attachment capability. Better to just insert the url.[/quote]

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[quote=ginnyt]Thanks. The only way to import pix is using the bracket [ and follow by img followed by bracket then insert pix when done use bracket back slash img then bracket. Or you can save the pix to file and use the file/picture attachment capability. Better to just insert the url.[/quote]

in other words just forget it, I'll never remember that