Her bright, and beautiful smile will linger in your heart and memory always.

You lost the love of your life, but you were so blessed to have known such a love. It is a sorry soul who goes through life never having loved, or being loved.
No doubt several of us have known that love, and then had to face the loss, but as fighters we keep moving forward, always with hope.

It is hard to imagine the pain and suffering your wife went through. When a loved one suffers like that, we reach a point where we are ready to accept God taking them home.
Then, when He does bring them home, we feel guilty. I went through that when my son died, it hurts, but they no longer have to hurt.

Each of us, who have lost a spouse, suffer that loss in our own personal way. Everyone has their own way of accepting a painful change in their life.
I felt blessed to have our last 5 months together be so special. I still walk through the house and talk to him.
In time, we find the good memories are what keep us going.

Our prayers will be with you, and He will guide you.

Thank You, Jesse..I speak from experience, having cared for my mother and she recently passing..A long difficult 2 yrs of her agony I could any help subside...

I look at this way, she brought me into the world, it was only fitting that I kept her home as she wished and was allowed to hold her in my arms as she left this world..

You will eventually have similar feelings in knowing you did in fact give her all of you in your excellent care of and love to her!! A blessing....May God watch over and keep you, always..Walk with p***e my friend..You did the very best!!!!

You, Jesse, took magnificent care of her and even though your going to have those moments of why couldn't I do more, or what else could I have done, please try and know you held her, you wrapped her in your love and took beautiful care of her right to the end...Nothing replaces that and I pray your find your true solace in knowing you did all you could..She was ready to finish just another part of this cycle in life...And she deserved to...Just as you now deserve to be yourself again...

The hardest part I know is all this time you now have on your hands that you did not have when caring for beautiful wife...You will feel lost having it now and you will think there is something she needs now, its time, etc..Conditioned to her every need, those thoughts and feelings stay for a while but do dissipate as you find a new routine....The hardest part of that is knowing you no longer have those to do...You'll actually miss them because they were your everything...

Love is the most magnificent experience one could ever truly have..Nothing replaces it...You were very fortunate and it will now carry you through into your new Jesse life that will come in time......

I don't know you but you certainly have my sympathies. At least you have this debate forum and I presume a few children with grandchildren to occupy the otherwise lonely hours. Getting old can certainly be a b***h for so many, especially those last couple years. I'm sure we all hope and pray your last years will be much easier. I think most of us on this debate forum are in the sunset of our years and are thankful for this debate forum to give us something to do that adds a little more purpose and human exchange regardless of which political side we're on. It sounds like at least you had considerable luck through most of your years to get what apparently seems to be the love of your life and kept it all intact for the large majority of your life. That certainly puts you well ahead of the average American in lucking out on this planet beyond your luck of just being born in America. Best of luck and here's hoping you have a continuing good life with many more years to go.

I feel your pain. I lost my wife Linda 19 years ago to a massive brain aneurysm. Just drinking coffee together and the next thing I knew she was on the floor screaming and holding her head. When she was pronounced brain dead They took me into a room with a 19 year old boy with a terrible head injury. They told me the boy would live only If I gave up the machine that was keeping her alive for him. They gave me time to drive through the night to get her parents so they could say goodbye. Then I had to pull the plug. Life went on for me. I was mentally unable to work and left things up to my employees. Then gradually I started living again. It took a long time for me to quit constantly going to her grave. After all of these years I still think of her each day. I got remarried to a friend I have known since she was 15 years old. I now have 2 beautiful grandchildren I am raising and at age 62 I am still working like a s***e roofing houses. Life changed but I managed to keep my head and things did get better. Good luck to you. I'll be thinking of you and wishing you all the best. You are a tough man and I have a feeling you will be ok. Your timely posts are missed. I'll look forward to your wisdom in the future.

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Dear Jesse,
I think I know exactly how you are feeling. I lost my hubby of 42 years in 2006, and even though I knew he had major health problems, I had never wrapped my head around the obvious fact that I was going to lose him. When I could no longer deny the obvious, that he was at death's door, the bottom fell out of my world. But my mind was torn between the shock and sadness that I would not be able to take him home again from the hospital and the feeling of relief that his suffering would be ending, probably before the day was over. Even when I talk about it even as I write this note to you, the tears come. I feel your pain and nothing I or anyone else can do will relieve you of it. But God has given us a means of relief......TIME. The pain eventually grows dimmer and dimmer......doesn't seem to really go away, but becomes bearable. In the beginning one thinks it will NEVER be bearable, but, truly Jesse, it will become bearable and life will go on. I feel sorrow for you, but have all the faith in the world that the severe heaviness of your sorrow will lessen. Sounds like your wife had quite a struggle, and I am happy for her that she now has total and complete relief from her pains and worries. Each of you were so very lucky to have had each other. She would want you to be happy for her obtaining relief from her suffering. Hang in there, Jesse. Time is a healer.

Hello Jesse, you don't know me as I am mostly just a 'reader' of OPP for the last 3 years. I don't know your pain yet of losing the love of your life, but I live in fear every day of it being the last day of being with my love. I know only with the grace of God, will I be able to bear the pain. I'm so very sorry for your loss! She was a very beautiful young woman and I'm sure she was just as beautiful in later years. She was so blessed to have a man to love and support her thru all the years, as you were blessed to have hers. Not all couples have that kind of love. May God give you comfort and strength to finish the life that He has blessed you with. Sam W.