no propaganda please wrote:
We had out of town company for the weekend and a question came up that I had no way of answering, so I need your thoughts.
the couple who stayed with us are also therapists dealing with victims of child molestation, primarily boys in the preteen and young teen age, molested by men. so we have been doing the same type of work for years, and asking for God's guidance in the type of help we offer to the young men and boys.
The husband had been working with a young man since the boy was thirteen years old, and is still in contact with him as an adult man, of 25. As a boy, he was molested by his stepfather for about two years. Too afraid of the adult and ashamed of participating in the activity, although unwillingly, he did not report it to anyone. When the boy was thirteen, he discovered the stepfather had started molesting his ten year old younger brother. The thirteen year old was furious, for good reason, and waited until the step father was asleep, and stabbed him to death. The boy ended up in a youth facility for serious offenders, where my friend was his therapist. The boy was introduced to Jesus and God and has become a believer, has asked for Jesus to help him with his sinful ways. The man, who is now 25 is no longer incarcerated, has finished college and has a good job. He has met a wonderful woman and they want to get married. however, he believes that the sin of murder makes him unworthy of getting married and having a family. Unfortunately, while I believe I am a good Christian, I must admit that I have not spend as much time studying the bible as I should have, so I am at a loss to give my friend any suggestions as to how he should handle the situation. My believe is that the man is now a good Christian, and a good man. With help from Jesus and the people who God has sent to help him, the man has turned his life around and I believe that he would be a worthy husband and father, but I may be looking at the situation from a shallow standpoint.
What would those of you with more knowledge say to him, and what would your suggestions be, at this juncture in his life?
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This is an easier a question to answer then you may have first thought NPP. I'll try to keep my opinions to a minimum and give you an authoritative answer.
Revelation 21:8 says that these will not enter heaven but will be cast into the lake of fire,
"But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death."
And again in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 we are warned,
"Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.
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Pretty bleak situation for mankind right?
So what does one do? NOTHING! What I mean is that, salvation is a gift from God, it can't be earned by anything that we do.
Isaiah 64:6 states, "All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags;..."
Matthew 7:21 says further that, "Not everyone who says to me, Lord, Lord, will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven."
So then, what is God's will for us?
In John 6:40 Christ is crystal clear, "For my Fathers will is that everyone who looks to the Son and believes in him shall have eternal life, and I will raise them up at the last day.
Again in Acts 10:43, "Of Him all the prophets bear witness that through His name everyone who believes in Him receives forgiveness of sins.".
NPP you said that "The boy was introduced to Jesus and God and has become a believer..." I then must conclude that,
"For it is by grace you have been saved, through faithand this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God not by works, so that no one can boast." Ephesians 2:8-9
What is this grace? It is the free and unmerited favor or beneficence of God.
And, that is your answer.
When you said that "he believes that the sin of murder makes him unworthy of getting married and having a family.", then he must still feel that Christ sees his sin as bigger than anyother I have mentioned above and, Christ either is not able or willing to forgive him.
All falsehoods, as you have now read and can clearly see. By his upright behavior now, one can surmise that he is indeed a new creature in Jesus Christ. He needs to stop fretting and get on with his life.
"Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come"
2 Corinthians 5:17
In Ephesians 4:30 God states, "And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were SEALED for the day of redemption."
That's the gospel of Jesus Christ, good news right?
Just explain to him that he is a SEAL and just never knew it and, we all know how fearless seals are!