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Yes, there are a small number of people who are born with indeterminant g*****ls, and because of extra X c********es have indeterminate brain function. they are not t*********r however they are assigned a g****r at birth because they had not developed one due to genetic MISTAKES( mosaics) However, there have been no scientific studies of a large number of children with g****r identity disorder which determined all were mosaics. Most of the people who have sex reassignment do not fit in this category They often have reproduced before deciding to change sex, and, as the studies indicate the true mosaics do not develop fertile organs in either sex, due to the fact that they have a******lities. If someone would do a study of half of those in the last twenty years who have had sex reassignment surgery to find out how many had these genetic a******lities and had to have g*****ls build of one sex or the other, and how many were suffering from dissociative disease and severe depression. A Johns Hopkins study found that treating the severe depression and dissociative disease with drugs and therapy removed the desire for sex reassignment surgery. Maybe you can come up with the references for a study of a sufficient number of people who are mosaics and happy with the sex they were assigned, a number who were not happy with the assigned sex, and at least a thousand randomly chosen people who want sex reassignment surgery or have had it, and the data proves that they really do have mosaic differences no one knew about before then the statement would prove to be valid.
As far as your friend who died of tongue cancer, i am sorry to hear that, it must be a horrible way to die. Had an associate (not a friend, as I knew her only casually) who had tongue cancer and died of it. she had been a heavy smoker and regular user of pot so it didn't surprise anyone, but it still was really bad.
Do you suppose that the sexual abuse that you said you had as a child was part of the reason that you became same sex attracted?
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I'd replied but it disappeared. So, of course, your point is well taken that many more (and larger studies) needs to be done. However; the study that was reported by PBS Newshour was very interesting, in all
manner of ways.
I know about the mosaic genes, etc., all of which you cited very well.
To answer your personal question. No, it was not the
sexual abuse that "made" me a lesbian. I had been
with boys and men, before I was 17 years old. I'd
found it, sorry about the t***h of these words, boring,
uneventful, not fun, nothing. Without going in to great
detail - when I was 17 years old, and had been invited by a friend (at that time all my friends were Italian or
Sicilian) to meet her cousin. So, she and her "friend",
who I quickly learned, was not just a friend, picked me
up, and this other 17 year old cousin...we went to a
club (not a lesbian club), f**e I.D. and all. I was a
Senior in High School. When we drove back to my
parent's place, this cousin moved over in the back seat, and kissed me.
I went in and wrote in my diary - not called a "journal" at that time. OMG - a girl just kissed me, and I kissed her back, and wow, I really liked it. I was both
freaked out and happy. Some people I've met who have known about the abuse have asked me the same thing or have said to me: "I'm surprised you're not a
lesbian because of all that abuse". I've chosen not to
"come out" to them mostly, because they were not
close to me.
Yes, bigger studies need to be done.
My cousin never smoked. She and her girlfriend, Jennie, went to Germany, with Sarah's IV of saline solution. She didn't eat for many years. And her girlfriend's mother lived near this clinic. There was a
new treatment. Burning around the actual cancer on
the tongue. Sarah stood it as long as she could, so
they returned to California. There had been a fund set
up - "Tiger down, needs help up", by one of her closest friends, a psychologist and an attorney, both. Many of
us, immediate family, contributed what we we could.
So many others, anonymously, gave thousands for this
trip and treatment.
And, in the end, for hospice at Jen's apartment, and
then the difficult decision to have Sarah moved to
hospice care. I visited her innumerable times.
Her brother, gay, had been alienated from the entire family for almost 2 decades, and when my uncle,
Sarah's dad died, he didn't show up. However; when
Sarah left, he wanted a lot. Real estate. My uncle's,
and Sarah's own home. I've not been in touch with this amazing woman who was handling everything, including the law suit.
Sarah did find that smoking marijuana, with a
vaporizor, so indirectly, helped before the point when
she was on morphine. My brother helped her with the
machinery and the product.
Before that, she'd never smoked pot. She didn't use
drugs or drink. When she was well, she enjoyed a
glass of wine with dinner, and I appreciated the fact,
that when we had Thanksgiving at my mother's house,
and my brother said some s**te, she immediately stood up to him. She was that way. I loved her. I'd
known her since she was a new-born. I lived with that
family as a teenager, when I was very troubled,
depressed, didn't understand what I really felt and
why...and so on and so on. So I knew both of those
kids.
I knew immediately that he was gay and that Sarah was a baby-butch, as we say. When I told her that, as
an adult, she said to me: "I wish you'd told me that when I was a teenager"!!! She'd been upset and confused by her feelings - she thought, first, she was
"supposed to be attracted to the opposite sex", and
she wasn't. She figured it out without me. And later,
she helped me, encouraged me - told me about her
experience in law school, when a "femme" asked her to go get coffee, and they lived together for years.
I am a very feminine woman. I am not attracted to
feminine women. My daughter is surpised. Who knows, maybe I might be. I just don't know. Dating - is
something I think about, and wonder - what the hell
does THAT mean. "Dating". The women I've been with
since I've been clean - BTW, all of these relationships were really f**ked. 2 lasted way too long. And, yes,
these women were "butches" to one degree. There is a large spectrum....some do not want to identify as
"anything". Bi-sexuality is something I just don't get.
People (straight ones) very often think and believe,
that if a lesbian is feminine, she is attracted to "butches" as a sort of "f**e" man. It's just not true.
I don't know if you feel that way. You'd have to be
able to step into my shoes, so to speak, and feel how
I feel. It is - what's a good description? - a fallacy, and
a shallow one, that a "butch lesbian" is equivalent to a
"man". Not true. My experience lets me understand
that.
I hope this has been a private conversation. If not, well, so be it. Thanks for your comments, and I did not
mind at all answering your question. As I said, it's been asked of me before. I am not usually as
forthcoming - if I know these people and we're close,
they already know me and the answer to that.
Take care.
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