Tom, I share your grief although I can't share your burden. I would if I could. I can't imagine the grief one feels losing a spouse or a child. I do not ascribe to the idea that grief is a process. Your beloved wife was much more worthy than being a process. It seems to me that grief is better understood as really hard work and that hard work is better understood as a genuine and necessary labor of love.

I'm losing my wife mentally and she's losing me physically. The music we're reminiscing today puts to music what our hearts have written. Pax.

I do understand that a hierarchy of the church is totally infiltrated by men who are sexually and psychologically addicted to the worst moral depravities with other men, poop sex, might want a liturgy with nude male dancing at the beginning, because it reminds them of the orgies which are at the center of the only religion they know, the Synagogue of Lust for stinky sex.

https://www.catholicnewsagency.com/news/257615/from-australia-to-the-vatican-aboriginal-mass-seeks-official-recognition

In the article below, the author cites his "three reasons people hate Trump" - the Triple S’s: Silly, Subconscious, and Sinister.

Let’s take them in order.

First are the “sillies.” These are people who hate Trump purely because of his demeanor. They don’t like the way he throws insults around, the way he has been caught on tape talking about women, or any of a number of other reasons that relate to personal attributes as opposed to matters of policy or his ability to govern.

The second group of folks with what gets called “Trump derangement syndrome” are those who hate the candidate-in-chief for reasons that are subconscious or subliminal.

There are three main drivers of this subconscious hatred. They are guilt, shame, and altruism.

Donald Trump is unapologetic in his love of country and his claims that America is exceptional and that the needs of our nation and its citizens must be placed first in any and all considerations involving domestic policy or foreign diplomacy. This message resonates with at least half the nation, and the fire and brimstone with which he delivers it explains the energy and enthusiasm found at his rallies. Every Trump appearance feels like the Beatles landing in America in 1964.

There is a third group of Trump haters who cannot be reached and with whom all must reckon.

Those are the sinister ones—the ones who are not conflicted by Trump’s “America first” message but who are instead vehemently opposed to it.

These are the people who are rightly labeled as globalists—people who want America to recede into the middle of a heterogenous, global community, setting its strong nation-state aside and becoming no more significant in world affairs than are the nations of Chad, Azerbaijan, or Guyana. “Lead from behind” is just one of the more coffee mug-ready ideas that they hold, all of which seek to have us become part of Orwell’s Oceania.

These people don’t want to confront China; they want to make money with it. These people do not want to protect our borders; they want to open them so that we can water down our national identity. These people don’t want us to be energy independent; they want to tilt at energy windmills by installing actual windmills and curry favor with the United Nations and the World Economic Forum (two decidedly anti-American and anti-Trump organizations).

This sinister group, hateful of the very thought of American supremacy, simply detests Donald Trump and knows that he has created an awakening among his followers as to their designs to rebuild an unleavened America. They truly hate the man, and they consciously and irrationally want him off the stage.

The author concludes with the following," While my own personal feelings about the former president are mixed, my strong opposition to the third group of his haters is clear and unwavering. It needs to be a sort of political “Great Commission” to go out and make believers not out of all three nations of Trump haters, just the first two."

https://www.zerohedge.com/political/three-reasons-people-hate-trump

Stop Caring
By: Kurt Schlichter

It’s become clear that America has a problem with caring. Americans care far too much. They need to care less about things that are pinko ruling class deems important. They need to actively not care.

Why limit our caring? Because caring gives your enemies leverage over you. Your enemies don’t care about you. Do you think those fat, ugly communists infesting our college campuses care about you? They don’t, except to the extent they can hurt you. When they talk about “From the River to the Sea,” they’re not just talking about the Jordan to the Med – they’re talking about the Mississippi to the Pacific and the Atlantic, or they would if they knew any geography.

They don’t care about you. They want you dead. Their problem is they have no upper body strength and no guns. They can’t make you die or do anything else. The only way they can exercise power over you is by convincing you to exercise power over yourself.

That’s where your caring comes in. They use caring as leverage against you. It’s weaponized caring. They can’t do anything at all unless you care what they say and what they think and act accordingly. If you stop caring, you start winning.

Now, I’m not saying all caring is bad. You should care about your family, not in a Joe Biden way, but in a normal daddyshower-free way. You should care about your dogs, but not in a Kristi Noem way. The Bible instructs us to care about others. Look at the Good Samaritan story (Luke 10: 29-37). Note that the Samaritan story took place in ancient Israel, kind of establishing the whole Jewish indigenous thing, but that’s not the point here. The point is that Jesussays you should care about innocent people in need of help. The Samaritan came across a man who had been beaten and robbed, except on the road from Jerusalem to Jericho and not a modern blue Democrat city. The Samaritan helped him out. The victim didn’t do anything wrong. He didn’t ask for it. He suffered misfortune. It’s a good thing to care about people like that.

But it’s a bad thing to care too much about people who cause their own problems because that deprives them of the educational benefit of suffering the consequences of stupid decisions. And it’s also bad to care about people who use caring to beat your brains out.

We all have a limited caring bandwidth. We can’t care about everything, which the left understands and uses against us. We’re supposed to care about the things the commies care about. We’re supposed to care about Gazans who are getting killed because Gazans started a war instead of Nigerians who were getting killed because they are Christians. Allowing the enemy to determine your hierarchy of caring allows them to set your agenda. Don’t allow them to do that.

A proper hierarchy of caring has God, Country, and Family right at the top. You should care about those things and care a lot. But after that, you have to make choices about what you will care about. Here are mine. Next in the hierarchy of caring come American civilians, and then come American soldiers and first responders. Why are these heroes second? Well, because they – and I – took an oath that does not expire to uphold the Constitution, meaning putting American citizens’ lives ahead of our own. So, if I have a choice between an American citizen and an American soldier taking a bullet, it’s got to be the soldier. That’s when we earn all that “Thank you for your service” stuff. But still, their pace in my hierarchy of caring still means a heck of a lot of caring.

Next come allied civilians—that’s because they are allies. Then come allied soldiers and first responders. After that come other civilians. Then come enemy civilians—yes, I care less about the lives of enemy civilians than I do about American and Allied civilians and soldiers. You have correctly assessed my relative levels of caring. I know it will stun moral illiterates that I will take my own side in a conflict, but I do.

And after that comes…nothing. I don’t care about enemy combatants – the Hamas semihumans do not deserve the title “soldiers.” Not a bit. I actively want bad things to happen to them.

So, if somebody asks me why I don’t care enough about the Gazan people who are suffering because of the war the Gazans started, that’s because, as enemy civilians, they are near the bottom of my hierarchy of caring. How do I know they are our enemy? I listen to them.

It’s unreasonable to expect me to care much about the enemy, not simply because they are the enemy but because one can only care so much. Again, you only have so much caring bandwidth. You can’t care about everything, and you certainly can’t care about everything equally. Adults distinguish between things. The left distinguishes between things. My life and yours are right at the bottom of their hierarchy of caring. The leftists don’t care if we think that’s wrong. Why should we care what they think?

And here’s another rule of caring – I can’t care more about strangers than the people who have a duty to care about them do. Let’s take the Gazans again, please. Gazan children are getting hurt in a war that their parents and tribe started and still perpetuate by not surrendering and giving up their hostages, yet I’m expected to care a lotabout them. But why am I expected to care about them more than their parents and their tribe do? If they cared, they would surrender, release the hostages, and better yet, have never started this war in the first place. A parent’s duty is to care about his own children. I’m not sure how anyone really expects me to care about somebody else’s children more than the children’s parents do, but I’m not going to. And no amount of moral intimidation is going to make me.

The fact is that the Gazans brought on their own pain, and their problem is their problem, not mine. Even if I could do something about it, other than end it sooner by encouraging Israel to get on with it and wipe out these Hamas bastards, it is not my moral duty to do so. I didn’t create the problem. I don’t control the solution, or at least one that’s acceptable to me. I suppose we could cut Israel off from arms and allow the Gazans to murder them all, but that’s not going to happen. So, I guess the Gazans are screwed until they decide to change how they do business. If they don’t care enough about their own fate to do that, I don’t see why I’m required to compensate by caring much more about their fate than they do. And I don’t.

Your caring is yours. You get to decide what you care about, not some bloated pierced freak working out their daddy issues on the campus quad. And if they don’t like that, guess what? I don’t care.