Happy J wrote:
This is a question to everyone. As you know, I am in the service, younger than many on this site, and a widower. Of late, I have had a cougar (older woman) pursing me. Has this ever happened to you? And for the ladies, have you or are you a cougar? I told the woman that I was not interested, but they are persistent. Any advice of how to shake her?
How is she "pursing" you? Does she have an overly large purse that she uses to pummel you, or is it large enough to put you in? Either way, I would be extremely careful when in her proximity.
OK, I had my little joke, at your expense, and I apologize. I should not make lite of your predicament as you are seeking a solution to a very serious, to you, problem.I realize you are in a quandary. So please forgive me.
To answer your question, I don't have any concrete answers.
I did have a similar experience after my wife's demise. I must admit, being pursued by a member of the opposite sex is flattering, at first, but soon grows old. The lady in question was a widow. I avoided her whenever possible, but was never unkind to her. I had to turn down offers of concerts, movies, dinners, picnics, beach outings, and a myriad of other things. She just wouldn't take no for an answer. I made up some unbelievable excuses to avoid her company on several occasions. She was a very nice lady, a lovely person, whom I had admired until the "pursing" began in earnest. I kept introducing her to acquaintances of mine, and to friends acquaintances, to no avail. To make matters worse, she had been a dear friend of my wife, so we had many friends and acquaintances in common. I sometimes felt like a prisoner. I solved my problem by moving to another city about 100 miles away. To be honest, I have no suggestions for you. I apologize for venting my dilemma while having no valid suggestion for your's. I even used my children as an excuse, saying they were adamantly, and unalterably opposed to my having a "lady friend" since my wife's passing. She didn't buy that, saying they would have a change of heart after an extended period of time had passed. This was two years after my wife's departure from earth.
All I can offer are my best wishes and good luck in solving your predicament.