Dr.Dross wrote:
My father abused my mother. In all other things he was a man much to be admired and respected, and that was, from what I know, the unanimous opinion of family, friends, and co-workers. I knew differently. He had a deep jealousy strike. Starting at eight, I was the one my mom screamed for at 4am for help to face my 6' dad after their night out; it left a lasting impression. The fact that he did not beat her but simply "roughed her up a bit" and threatened worse is not a point in his favor. Twice the cops were called to our apartment by neighbors...and they sat around the dinette table charmed by my father and grateful for the whiskey, as the men in blue shared their stories about "hysterical women." Then they shook my father's hand and left. Of course, I could have gone either way: be like my father or rebel against it. I rebelled. Just before I was shipped overseas in '67, that led to a few blows exchanged. My dad had been in Golden Gloves and besting him that night got his attention. He promised never to abuse my mom again. As far as I know from my two younger siblings, he kept that promise. People who knew them glossed over it by saying how passionate they were. Most really loved my mom and dad; they were usually the life of the party.
That is my segue into saying why I have such a problem with Trump. Not the only thing, the primary thing. Even the slightest disrespect to women gets my full and potentially wrathful attention. The video of him debasing women and boasting of being a predator really got my blood boiling. So maybe I am overreacting to this incident at the Inauguration. Trump strode out of the limousine and up the stairs to greet the exiting president to start his victorious day...and left Melania far behind in his wake. Am I being overly picky at being bothered by this? Clinton, Bush, and Obama, as I found out today, all waited for their wives to ascend those steps. Is it significant of something untoward in his character that he did not wait for his wife? Put it down to just his brash and decisive style? Of all the world's plethora of problems, I find this to get upset about? I find this to really mark this man as being unsuited for the presidency? Small gestures can mean big things.
My father abused my mother. In all other things he... (
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You hit the nail on the head. Small things are the keys to the big things.