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Where to start, where to start...perhaps with those pesky contributions...contributions are only contributions "if" they are accepted, if they are seen as having merit. If we cross off all the offered up opinions on OPP that have been dismissed as "crazy, moronic, irresponsible, immature, lies, distortions of the truth on both sides..." in my opinion, not a lot of contributions would be considered valid contributions. I hope you get what I'm trying to say. Having difficulty this evening with my communication skills -- got accidentally slammed to the ground by a llama -- right after I read your post the first time.
It may be a little of which came first, the chicken or the egg, but which side do you think started the "you gotta change, no, YOU gotta change?" It seems to have become a self perpetuating cycle. You know, on my very first day when I gave my "perky" shout out stating I am a middle of the road liberal, I was shocked at the reaction -- the vitriol I encountered, not the civilized discourse I was hoping for. It was more or less the same reaction I encountered in my rural community if I "dared" to declare I had a liberal bone in my body. A sane person would have just hit the delete button, never to view OPP again, but while there is a small chance that I am considered sane, there is a bigger possibility that I am extremely stubborn and so I kept coming back even when people were rude beyond belief because I wanted to understand, I NEEDED to understand why "I" even in my rural community was looked on with contempt. The individuals who were the loudest in their condemnation of me on OPP, and they didn't even know me "yet", were from the right, far right maybe? It doesn't matter. I just refused to fling their rudeness back...most of the time. You see, I truly understand your feeling of being under attack, and how tired of it you are, that the values you hold closest to your heart, are seen by some as nonsense, and how tired you are of having to constantly defend and justify how you feel. I feel the same way. I don't believe I have seen you quite like this before -- with your heart SO on your sleeve. It may not seem like it to you, but the "America sorta", the "real" liberals, not the media driven liberals, but the "others",many who go to church, raise their children to have decent, solid values, wishes the same things you do for the country. Maybe their thinking is wired a little differently than yours, but they don't wish for this country to be torn to shreds, particularly from within.
I get your frustration totally, and your anger. I respect your urge to give certain folks a thump on the noggin. However, the fact is, anger begets anger. We start to become familiar with the way certain individuals think and they become familiar with the way we think. Attitudes become entrenched and no one hears ANYBODY because they have already made the decision that the other person has no idea that could possibly be even remotely accurate because they believe they already know EXACTLY how the other thinks. I came to this site a liberal who wanted to understand, who wanted to communicate, and find common ground and what I feel I stumbled upon are two entrenched groups -- neither of whom wish to give a millimeter. I "have" noticed that you don't preach, by the way, something I appreciate, but I suspect because of the passion you feel, it comes across that way sometimes. I hope I don't preach either. Of course, as I key, I come to the sudden realization that somehow (don't exactly know how I got here) I am up on my soap box. :roll: :oops: There are certain individuals on this forum, just like the ones we encounter outside the cyber world, who make the trees difficult to be seen in the forest. They make an awful lot of noise, but it is funny that I have heard the comment made twice lately, one from the right and one from the left, that their sometimes outrageous remarks do not exactly portray how they "really" feel. Well, if they don't feel that way, they shouldn't put it out there that they do. It reflects badly and gives both you and me a bad name and makes it difficult to be heard.
I don't frequent a lot of threads these days because of the caustic atmosphere. You are far braver than I. However, "if" I should pop in for a visit and find you are being outrageously attacked, count on me to "gently suggest" that the poster "might" want to think about how they are communicating. By the way, I truly thank YOU for your honesty. That's where it all begins. :wink:
Where to start, where to start...perhaps with thos... (
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A beautiful response, one of the nicest I've ever received. You are a good person, that is obvious. Question: If a "contribution" isn't accepted by one person out of the dozens on 1PP, why isn't it still a contribution? When a "contribution" must be accepted by everyone on the forum, it ceases to be a contribution and becomes a demand in my view.
You said several things in this post to me, that I'd like to discuss with you, NOT argue with you, but I'd like to attempt to help you understand why some in your community think you are "different". I think I probably am one of them in my heart. Everything I say here, to you, to everyone, is truth as I see it. Not everyone sees truth the same way. I haven't studied this so cannot be precise, but basically speaking, I believe most rural folks are conservative and most city dwellers are progressives. I doubt there are as many as 5 living liberals in the US these days. I think true liberals are honorable people and there are some I respected a great deal, but the democrat party has been taken over by progressives and the true liberals either no longer have a voice in the party or they have left the democrat party or they have been won over by the progressives.
In the '30's America had an active Communist Party but it had to operate somewhat clandestinely because they were not accepted well by American society. Joseph McCarthy in the '50's set out to "out" the communists in America. They went underground so to speak. They knew they could never win in America by being "open". They realized they had to work quietly and off the radar and they knew they had to win by incrementalism. Americans will put up with small infractions and torture of the Constitution, but will fight against an open attempt to radically change things. At that time, most Americans were true blue Americans who could relate to famine, war, terror, crime. They were tough and they were rugged. The Communist Party didn't believe it would be easy to undermine the US government. They understood they MUST gain traction and power in certain fields of endeavor in order to reach children in particular so that they could teach them from the ground up that America had more than just a Constitution (I'm surmising here because obviously I don't know that they actually thought).
Those fields of endeavor they infiltrated were:
1. Politics
2. Mass media
3. Education
4. Entertainment industry
5. Unions
They did a bang up job of infiltrating all of these professions and it didn't take long for civics to be stopped in schools, for geography to be a very minor subject, for the removal of the pledge of allegiance to begin each day at school. The American people who followed what was happening as best they could were most unhappy these people were getting as much traction as they were getting - AGAINST MOST AMERICANS' WISHES. Obama caused NONE of this. But he was the catalyst they NEEDED in order to exit their closets and become exceedingly aggressive in media and government. You may have noticed that as soon as Bush 43 left office there were progressives EVERYWHERE, and they sold the low info voters on how great Obama was. When we saw the communists/progressives exit their closets, we KNEW that THEY knew they had to make it work this time or they won't have another chance for decades. Ergo, our country is being ravaged at a rate it has never seen before. And it is harming EVERY AMERICAN, not only us, but generations to come.
Rural folks are as self reliant as possible and know the price when they cannot be self reliant. Their lives are extremely different from city dwellers' lives. I doubt that rural citizens have much in common with city citizens, and that is part of the problem. Additionally, city people see a lot more crime and are inbred to accept constraints put on them. Rural people do not LIKE constraints, particularly when there is no true need for those constraints. Constraints are loss of freedoms. Every law on the books is a constraint of someone's freedoms, and we have about 3 tons of laws in the National Archives. I don't know about everybody else, but every time anyone says "we need a law", I want to shake them and remind them that we have so many laws now, many of which are not enforced as required, that the average citizen may well be
unknowingly committing a crime every day. Laws carry consequences, sometimes severe consequences, and usually those consequences do very little good and often they do a LOT of harm. Rural people understand better than city dwellers, I truly believe, how precious freedoms are and they have already lost so many that they tend to get angry when even
more than 3 tons are then heaped upon them. I believe rural citizens are less likely to "go with the flow" than city citizens are - precisely because they KNOW that every law is dangerous to the fabric and validity of our nations' US Constitution and the Bill of Rights.
If you study the Bill of Rights, they are specific, not open to negotiation or change. The first 5 rights were written so that citizens could protect themselves from an oppressive government. Those rights did not come from government. They came with one's birth. If government did not give the rights, government has no business trying to negate them. Every law that waters down any of the first 5 Bill of Rights is truly an unconstitutional law and an illegal law. It doesn't matter what some court calls it. Intelligent people KNOW when they are being pi**ed on while someone else calls it rain.
It isn't that people love their guns and Bibles so much as intelligent people know to value their precious bill of rights which protect both their guns and their Bibles, not to mention their privacy. We have people in Congress, for goodness sake, and a President, who call for severe limitations on the Bill of Rights. Our rights are harming
no one, so what could be the rationale, other than
political advantage for desecrating the Bill of Rights - which, BTW, makes our government look SCARED of its citizens? Like they KNOW they have done something to make us dangerous to them.
In a nutshell, I get obstreperous when all Americans' freedoms are minimized in conversations, in law, in crowds, or in drawing rooms. I get that way because allowing ones freedoms to be willy-nilly destroyed is un-American. People fought and died for those protections and NO ONE has any right at all to minimize those rights. So, when I hear someone saying it's no big deal, what I would like to do is shake them until what passes for their brain rattles. When they give up THEIR rights, they are also giving up MY rights, and to be truthful, there are very few things worth fighting for. Our God given rights at birth happens to be the number one thing worth EVERY AMERICAN fighting for.
I have a feeling, no knowledge, that when you say liberal in your neighborhood, they assume you will gladly hand over your protective rights to a corrupt government who will then bash you over the head with those very rights. Most people still think of liberals as democrats, and most democrats are NOT liberals these days, but are socialists. I find it surprising that you probably vote with them.
I voted republican for 50 years, then decided they were too weak-kneed for me. I wanted to vote for people who had the same respect for the Constitution and the Bill of Rights that I have - finding them in the Democrat Party is impossible. Finding them in the Republican Party is almost impossible. Libertarians grasp and respect freedoms. That's where I am now.
Again, thanks for a beautiful response. I sincerely hope you will dwell on my words. I'm not the best at word usage, but I know what I think and why I think it. I love people, but that love dissipates quickly when I get the feeling they want to destroy things I find most important in life.
Ciao ~ :thumbup: :thumbup: