archie bunker wrote:
Alabuck, I honestly think you're being a partisan, unrealistic wuss here. And I say that with all due respect sir.
Women have always used their 'assets' to get their way with men, and when scorned by men, they are the victims.
Now we have this new fad of every woman who ever boob rubbed a man, and got what she asked for coming out as victims of men.
It's funny, how everyone demands equality, but women are the weaker sex when it comes to sexual advances. Women never do that, do they? I mean, use their bodies to get what they want, or compromise men in high places.
Why, all of a sudden, are they to be believed regardless of their credibility, and the man is automatically guilty?
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Archie, I’m sorry if I come across as being “partisian.” That’s not my intent. I do admit that much of my opinion comes from listening to what my wife, and other female members of my family, have experienced while working in their respective occupations.
Several of them have had unwanted sexual advances made toward them. The majority of the unwanted advances were made by their boss(es) or someone higher-up. The rest were from complete strangers in non-work situations. Two of the ladies who married-into the family were victims of familial incest in their nuclear families prior to marrying into my family. In all of these cases, the women didn’t come forward with their histories out of fear of reprisals by the perpetrators. Also, there was the known reaction of being called a liar for even accusing the perpetrators. If you had been called a liar for telling the truth, why would you ever want to continue telling th story?
As to why, all of a sudden, the women feel that with the change of perception about sweeping unwanted sexual advances under the rug, or justifying it by saying, “It’s just men-talk. They don’t mean anything you’re it,” maybe they feel safer being part of a group instead of coming out one at a time.
Also, just because a women shows off her figure, does that give a man permission to act like a Neanderthal and grab her by her hair and drag her off to have his way with her? He may “think” it, but that doesn’t give him permission to “act” on it. I’m sure, you have, just as I have, looked lustfully at a pretty woman and had thoughts of what I’d like to be doing with/to her. But, even though I may have thought it, I’d never try to act on it. It just, “ain’t fitt’n” to do such things. Those who try to force themselves on women because they think the women ”are asking for it”. simply don’t have the mental and emotional maturity to interact with the opponent sex.
Put yourself in their place. How would you like it if day in and day out you had to put up with constant cat-calls, unrequested sexual suggestions, intentional rubs against your body, or even outright offers of sexual favors that, of preformed, would help you advance in your career? These are some of the things the women in my extended family have had to endure in order to stay employed. Fortunately, none of them have had to perform any sexual acts, but a couple of them say the day is coming when they’ll be asked to do so. They can easily see the pattern of behavior as it unfolds. However, when the day comes, they’ll have a recording of it and the guy(s) involved will be outed and they and the company will be sued.
How would you like it if you’re on the beach with your 16 year old granddaughter who just happens to have a “killer body” and some 30-something guy with a wddding ring on, walks up to her and begins to complement her on her looks? Then, he asks her if she’d like to go back to his hotel room with him so they “... could get to know each other better?”
Well, that happened to me and my 16 year old granddaughter this past summer, in Gulf Shores, AL. I go up and gave that pervert a good cussing and threatened too shoot his sorry a$$ should he ever approach my granddaughter again. At first, he tried to call me in it. Then, I showed him the 9-mil I was carrying. He changed his tune very quickly and left us alone the rest of the trip.
The whole episode tore my granddaughter up. She can’t understand why older men want to hit on her just because of how she fills-out a bikini. She knows she has been blessed with a “nice figure” but so do a lot of guys and she doesn’t go around trying to get into their pants or even complement their abs or “packages.”
As to women using their sexuality to get what they want, I believe you’ve been reading too many XXX-rated stories. You should realize that 99.99% of that stuff is pure fantasy. And, the remaining .01% is only half-true. According to research done in the early 2000’s, less than .01% of women claim to WILLINGLY use their sexual favors as a tool for advancement. The vast majority of those women who did so were in the medical equipment and pharmaceutical sales, automobile sales, and real estate sales; all highly competitive sales industries where “any and all options are to be used to make a sale.”
Honestly, Arch, I think you’re trying to make the “exception” into the “rule,” here.