You and your child has done remarkably well! You have reason for being proud.
I do think that ADDH is real, but for a different reason than many. I believe that some people are just born with an insatiable curiosity. They have a tendency to look for answers outside of the box. They have to touch, to feel, to take things apart to see how they work. I do not think that these individuals should be put on mind numbing medications; as you said there are more direct ways of getting them to settle down. When I was a kid, I took everything apart to see how it worked. I even built things out of parts; they did not always work as I intended, but Moma had a kitchen full of my "inventions."
Your daughter will do fine, she will take the courses she needs for graduation, why because you will not let her just skate by. You are, were, and always will be a strong influence on her life.
As for your ex-husband, well I am not qualified to say anything about that. But, I can wish you the best of luck!
moonbeam wrote:
When I was in school, you never heard of the word ADDH.I, for one, do not believes it exists. What you have is an antsy kid who wont sit in a chair long enough because he knows there are no consequences for him/ Back when I was in school, it was only the boys (thank God) that got the licks. And that, my friend, will calm anyone down. We all have this deal now that is not "politically correct"to spank your child. The bible says Spare the rod and spoil the child--or something to that effect. I never had to give spankings ever to my 5 yr. old. All we told her was,"You're gonna get a pow-pow, and she calmed down. And when she kept getting out of her car seat in the backseat, when her step father would pull off of the road, you should have seen how quickly she shimmied back into her car seat.Now she is a 21 yr old college student and has her boyfriend of 5 yrs living in the next room with Dad on the couch. He must of took it to heart because I always told him that "when a man lives with you, he pays the bills, hence her father gets $200.00/month in rent from him. But have 2 BA's one in Education and the other in History with a field minor in Historical Research. But in order for me to count 5 and 13, I have to use my fingers!Hannah, my daughter, writes mathematical sentences on the board! She wanted to be in Culinary school, and I knew it would be not to her liking when she had to take hotel/motel management and I was right. She is now taking anatomy, physics, Calculus and Chemistry and also Geology and she is making "A." Me, I though I could get out of chemistry by taking Geology, bad deal, my only sciences I passes what astronomy. But I am worried because she seems not to want to take her core courses, like Spanish (because she had a bad experience with it in high school,and she needs to start taking her government and Texas History that is a must for a two year Associates degree and that ain't nothing. She needs to go to school for at least 4 yrs. but I don't want to run her life, I only want to watch her grow! I was denied that when her father took her away from me at the age of 5. We just got back together again when she was 21. And I have to say, her father is a real slouch. I don't ever see how he raised such a great kid.She even built her own care from the ground up. she has a Cutlass Supreme 1974 and she wanted some headers so I am taking them over to her today, although she is in Eagle Pass with her boyfriend's family. You never get over the loss of a child. Now he is being oh so kind to me and his opinion and personality toward me is so, so nice. Well, my current boyfriend of 14 yrs. I can't get married or I will lose my widow's benefits, says he wants me back. All the times on my knees like a mad woman praying for revenge. Well, if it true, this would be the best revenge of all! Sorry for all of the talking out of the side of my head. Live Love from the great Republic of Texas!
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