bahmer wrote:
Actually I believe that it was LBJ's war on poverty that started the African American's problems and if anything amplified them. It was the idea that an unwed mother would receive more in welfare than a married couple would receive. This started the destruction of the family unit in the black community.
Both parents are needed in a home to really help produce offspring that is both productive and law abiding.
Things that I have noticed in my own family is that mothers are sympathetic to the boys while fathers are sympathetic to the girls. But a home that has both a mother and father will be balanced and thereby teaching the young males how to properly treat a woman and also teaches the females how to properly treat a man.
It teaches etiquette and manners and respect for each other. My son received more spankings and harsh discipline because I knew that one day he would have to be the father. Unfortunately that never materialized but the girls always got a pass from me and my wife cracked down on the girls.
This seems to be missing from the African American one parent home. The boys run scot-free and the girls tend to give the boys free use of their bodies which produces more children to be raised by teen aged mothers.
I don't have the answers but something should be done to encourage the family unit in the black community. Whether this would take a rewriting of welfare to include the father may be one way of doing it. Getting these kids on the right track toward each other as well as the opposite sex would help a lot.
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Very good points bahmer, unbiased and not racist at all.
Your views on the need and value of having both mother and father is on the money. Children are sponges, I believe they pay very little attention to verbal instruction well until they're into their 40s but, will imitate what they see from the time they begin to almost crawl.
Single parenting gives the child a rather monocular view of things, while mothers and fathers together provide the child binocular and therefore, the most correct and accurate vision.
Cover one eye for a day or two and see what happens. You can still see out of one eye but, you lose all depth in your field of view. That's why God gave us two eyes, the need for two sexes to make children and, the requirement that mothers and fathers both be around to raise one in the best way possible.
Back before the government got into the sole provider (father) business, if you had children and couldn't take care of them, they were turned over to someone or an agency that would. It wasn't fair maybe but, child welfare trumped parental rights. Once people learned that they could irresponsibly bring children into the world, because they could have all of the pleasure and none of the consequences associated with it, it spawned the birth of the new family in this country. Baby mama, baby and still that rascally uncle that shows up from time to time to spend the night with baby mama, except now, both baby mama & uncle friend wait on the uncle with money to deliver the support check.
I'm really eager to see the results of the government getting into the marriage business, they did so well with parenting, the possibilities are quite mind-numbing, no?
At the end of the day, who gets stuck with paying the bills for immorality and well-meaning bureaucrats? If you said the American taxpayer, give yourself a gold star and then, pay `yo damn bill, uncle is getting needful again.
Sheesh!
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