jwrevagent wrote:
True. But in the case of our food pantry, it is a partnership with other churches, and when it was formed the pastors all agreed to keep in touch with the recipients, not because they did not trust them, but because they wanted to make sure these people were getting what they needed, and if there were any other things they could have, the church might be in a position to help. But pastors, I think, did not realize how much time that would take, especially when the requests for help grew in number. So, while the agreement lays the responsibility on the pastor, certainly the recipients should recognize that it is theft-this was not meant to be a cradle to grave thing. But yup, I know what you mean about people not realizing that they are no longer poor. My cousin put himself through college, scrimped and saved and spent very little, got a high paying job after college, never married, inherited several large amounts during his lifetime, but lived as though he were a pauper. I encouraged him to spend his money, give to charities he was interested in, and generally live a fulfilling life. He gradually let go of some of his funds, and when he died he left it to his brother, who had more than he did, and repeatedly told him that he did not want to inherit-I am not sure what the brother did with the money he did inherit, but I know he was not happy to get it. I was successful in getting my cousin to see that he could easily increase offerings to his church-not the same denomination as mine-and should leave a large amount to them, since his brother did not want it. At least the church did get some stipend, but when I think of all the good that could have been done-my cousin later supported St Jude Research Hospital, and the Apache Indians and some other animal and child charities, but he certainly could have done more, and never felt it. He never even touched his 401K or his investment income that he had with his bank.....too bad. But yup, I think he never realized how well off he was. I did his tax returns, so know much of what he had. He had a good heart, just simply did not think about how well off he was.
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I hate to be a sexist, but you see different things in men and women as they get older. If an old man lives like he doesn't have a pot to piss in, likely he doesn't. If an old woman lives the same way there is at least a small chance that she has more money than the people who are helping her. Usually if a man has money when he is a geezer he will spend it.
Either way it comes down to being more afraid of being poor than you are of death. I understand it having lived a good portion of my youth with the fear of poverty. Then you have the Marie Antoinettes of the World. Nobody will ever accuse those ladies of living below their means. Usually they got their money the old fashioned way. They married it. Their greatest fear is dying with unspent money in their purses. But then they don't usually show up at Church Pantries until they actually do run out of money.