Manipulation...
Blessed is he who has learned to admire but not envy, to follow but not imitate, to praise but not flatter, and to lead but not manipulate. ----- William Arthur Ward
Manipulation is not foreign to most of us. We know how to manipulate, ...... & have been manipulated. Manipulators may, or may not, be aware of what they're doing. There may be no malice involved. Often, with us addicts, the only intention is to find the means to continue an addictive behavior. Manipulation can, however, be terrifying if we're the end-receiver. We can deny that it's even happening, usually because we're so confused by it all. But when we do realize the t***h, we're frightened not only by what's happened, but also by what could happen, again & again. We've fallen for this before, what's to prevent us from falling for it again the next time ??
We do our best to detach, with love, from the manipulator. This may mean letting go ...... physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually . The more distance we have, the easier it is to see the t***h, & to recognize the manipulation for what it is. When we must have contact, we keep our head on straight & our feelings in check. We don't need answers for anyone right away ...... even ourselves. But as time goes on, we're much better equipped to identify and to deal decidedly, & appropriately, with the manipulator & their manipulating behavior.
Today, I will have the courage to see the t***h. Today, I will own that t***h.
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