Don G. Dinsdale Loc: El Cajon, CA (San Diego County)

I Don't Know, No I Don't Believe I Have Really Loved... I Know How to "Take Hostage"... I Know How To Be "Helpless So She Can Fix Me"... I Know How To Be a "Dictator"... I Know How To Share Me, If It'll "Get Me What I Want"... There Is a Woman I Would Give Up All My "Walls" For, BUT I'm To Old And To Near The End to Get Involve With a New Her... I Can Do The Balance Of My Life With My Son... What I Would Give For Another 20 Years of "Healthy" Life... T***h Is, I've Run My Race... And I've Had a Ball, Really... Don D.

One of the attributes of love . . .

Is to bring harmony and order out of chaos.
--Molly Haskell

Have we forgotten how to love in our hurried passage through life? Perhaps we need reminding that love focuses our attention and guides our direction. Our actions aren't hurried and our feelings aren't confused and unraveled when we're loving others and ourselves. Love offers form and enhancement to each moment.

When we experience the love of another, we remember our importance, and theirs, to the circle of life, and we feel encouraged, at times even impelled, to share the enchantment of love with someone new.

When the day's frantic activities crowd the heart's silent places, we must slow our pace and take notice of the loved ones in our presence, there by intent, remembering with them the design that has captured us and given meaning to our lives.

Love creates music from the disharmony of our haphazard life choices. Giving it away is like a song of happiness emerging from our hearts.

BearK Loc: TN

Jesus tells us, "to love your neighbor as you love yourself."

We all have our 'warts.' When we can learn to accept our 'warts,' another person's 'warts' don't seem so bad either. In time those 'warts' change into beauty marks, and you can begin to like yourself. When you like who you are it becomes easier to like someone else, then 'like' can grow. That like is akin to planting a seed, watering it, and having the sun shine on it - my, how fast it will grow!

Easier said than done, you say. Yes, I suppose it is, unless you work at it. Our heartbeat, our breathing comes built in, no effort on our part is required, unless we have specific health issues. Health issues can require us to have to work at something most of us take for granted. It's that way with love, it requires work, you can't be lazy, you can't just take it for granted and expect it to grow. If you want it to flourish, it takes effort from each involved party.

That makes it sound so easy, it's not. Everything worth having takes effort to produce, and effort to maintain. Others have to become more important than worldly desires. There's an old song about love makes the world go round. It's just too bad that the green eyed monster of jealousy, and greed get in the way. Do I have a solution, not really. Each person holds the key, they have to care - first for themselves, then for others. Maybe, if you try to walk in their shoes for a day, you could better understand.

no propaganda please Loc: moon orbiting the third rock from the sun

Don,
Don't forget that you can "love" too much and become needy That works as much with your children as is does with your spouse. No matter how old we are, we still have the capacity for love, both giving and receiving. It way well take a different form than it did in younger years, but love, which is the reflection of God's love for us, will make our last days better, and the days of those we love more fulfilled.


SWMBO