Don G. Dinsdale Loc: El Cajon, CA (San Diego County)

Let go of resentments

Resentments are sneaky, tricky little things. They can convince us they're justified. They can dry up our hearts. They can sabotage our happiness. They can sabotage love.

Most of us have been at the receiving end of an injustice at some time in our lives. Most of us know someone who's complained of an injustice we've done to him or her. Life can be a breeding ground for resentments, if we let it.

"Yes, but this time I really was wronged," we complain.

Maybe you were. But harboring resentment isn't the solution. If it were, our resentment list would resemble the Los Angeles telephone directory. Deal with your feelings. Learn wh**ever lesson is at hand. Then let the feelings go.

Resentments are a coping behavior, a tool of someone settling for survival in life. They're a form or revenge. The problem is, no matter whom we're resenting, the anger is ultimately directed against ourselves.

Take a moment. Search your heart. Have you tricked yourself into harboring resentment? If you have, take another moment and let that resentment go.

God, grant me the serenity that acceptance brings.

lpnmajor Loc: Arkansas

You nailed it there! Road rage and other outbursts, usually are only triggered by the current incident, but are the result of something that happened some time ago. Frustration, envy, emotional hurt, all lead to resentments, which may explode at any time. These outbursts do nothing to correct the issue which caused the resentment, but invariably cause harm to innocent bystanders - and one's self.

I suspect that "letting go", is probably the hardest task a human can face. We nurse our resentments like a pair of comfortable shoes, they're ugly and nasty - but they feel so good when we're wearing them.

okie don

My dad loaned a cop a sizable amount of money.
Dad died.
I was grossly upset as he took advantage of my sick father.
I had to let it go as it will eat at your soul.
I think of the 'Lord's Prayer' frequently about our Debts and Debtors.
It will tear you up if you don't let it go!.

Armageddun Loc: The show me state

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okie don

Your 100% right Dinsdale.
It will destroy YOU!!!

Don G. Dinsdale Loc: El Cajon, CA (San Diego County)

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Sometimes we intuitively know what to do, ie: Let it go...

A guy punched me in the eye just before the bell rang for our next class, I never got to fight back...

By the end of the day I was over being pissed, but it's over 55 years ago and I still wish I could have gotten one punch in, ha ha ha... To funny...

lpnmajor Loc: Arkansas

Maybe you still can. Goggle him and find out where he lives. :D

okie don

I was so pissed, I strapped on 2 9mm and grabbed my .270. My wife stopped me. Had tonsue him. Got a judgment for over $50K. It was a sizeable amount of money. Was able to finalize the estate. He died, so I heard via grapevine. It over but still hard to swollow and get over 25 years later!

She Wolf Loc: Currently Georgia

My Grandfather gave me great advice regarding resentment and h**e. Even if you are correct in your belief that a person has harmed you in some way. Then hating or resenting that person only harms you. If the act was deliberate the person doesn't care. So by holding on to the resentment or hatred you harm only you.

People can only harm you with your consent. Look to see what your part of the situation was, learn from it and move on.

okie don

So true.
Bitterness, anger, hatred will tear you up.
Cause ulcers, high blood pressure etc.

Used to be ' an eye for and eye', now it's ' turn the other cheek'.
Harder than hell to do sometimes tho...
Peace, Goodwill is how we must try to conduct ourselves as I see it all...

Don G. Dinsdale Loc: El Cajon, CA (San Diego County)

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He Died about 15 years ago...

dennisimoto Loc: Washington State (West)

Carrying resentment against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die! The Chinese say, "A man who sets out on a journey of revenge should first dig two graves."

Raylan Wolfe Loc: earth

Ginsdale constantly post new articles on this site and receives very few responses, the least of any person! His desperate attempts for attention have fallen on deaf ear! Even when he plagiarizes another's words as those below!

http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5916253

Plagiarism: a despicable act of a person desperate for attention!

Don G. Dinsdale Loc: El Cajon, CA (San Diego County)

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Dingbat this as are all such post are from AA recovery books...

Some times your just so Dumb & Ignorant...

Don G. Dinsdale Loc: El Cajon, CA (San Diego County)

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I like them both, but the poison one the best, so real...