no propaganda please wrote:
On a different thread a statement was made that conservatives wanted their children to be well behaved, while the liberals want their children to be kind to other people. I commented to my neighbor about that and he told me a story. Some years ago he and his son who was twelve at the time were in town doing chores and saw a man standing on a corner with a sign that said "will work for food". His son said that the chicken c**p needed cleaning maybe they should hire the man to do it. The boy went over to the man and said that they had work for him and would pay him as well as feed him, and the work was cleaning the chicken c**p. The man told him no thanks but could he please have two dollars to buy some food? Smart boy said, no work, no pay and learned something about other people. That man's son, our neighbor's grandson was with grand dad in town recently and a man in dirty clothes came up to them and asked for money so he could buy lunch. The boy went into the store and bought a meal for the man and brought it to him, where upon the man shouted something nasty and said just give me the da**n money. He also learned something about human nature.
So the question is, these boys were being nice offering work or food, and also being well behaved by not telling the bums what they thought of the man. Which would you prefer, a child who is always nice to people, or a child that behaves himself and is polite to everyone, friend or not? What constitutes being nice, does it include not telling someone that they are doing something wrong or bad so as to not hurt their feelings? Examples such as taking money from Moms' purse or not telling a friends parents that the friend is doing drugs? How far does it go when you are being nice? On the other hand if you want your children to be well behaved does that require sitting quietly by while adults talk and being passive under all circumstances. Does well behaved include "yes Mam" and "No Sir" and holding the door open for old people even if your friends think you a wuss for doing it? Which would you want your children to be, or would you put the emphasis on something else, if so, what? I really would like to know, plus this subject should not generate vicious comments or h**eful speech so it could be a change of pace for the site..
On a different thread a statement was made that co... (
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Before I even start, I decided definitions may be helpful.
Behave 1. to manage the actions of (oneself) in a particular way. 2. to conduct (oneself) in a proper manner
Well-balancedhaving good or equal amounts of all the necessary parts of something
Kind a group of people or things that belong together or have some shared quality : a particular type or variety of person or thing
3. fundamental nature or quality : essence
What the individual, who declared what conservatives want in their children, is insinuating is conservatives want robot, non thinking obedience. It is intended as an insult. It is meant to place conservatives on the defensive.
In point of fact, a liberal wants exactly what the prime definition of
kind is. They want to belong in a group that share only their qualities, beliefs, etc. Excuse the snark. It should be noted that, as they would define it, the third definition is not primary for the word.
What conservatives want from young people is
well-balanced behavior. Where is it written that because a young person utilizes good manners they cannot be kind? Is it the presumption because they know how to say: please, thank you, yes, ma'am and yes, sir, they are unable to be kind and empathic?
A person can talk with an individual about harmful behavior without being unkind. It is about word usage, but just as importantly, timing, place, facial expression, and tone of voice.
I am not certain I gave you what you were looking for.