Canuckus Deploracus Loc: North of the wall

So I just called my mother for Mother's Day... She's doing ok.. Still not over the loss of my grandmother... But doing well with her health and such...

After a while of face timing with her granddaughter we got to chatting... It's been a while...

Seems my sister and her husband (not married, common law, he's actually still married to his ex...Sigh) have been using crack and speed for --- well basically they're whole relationship... And now it's out of control...

He's threatened her and their kids (niece 9, nephew 8) and they have fled the house... Living across provincial lines with his sister... Apparently they felt that having a small arsenal of handguns and rifles in the house was a good idea.. Because crack and gunpowder go get together...

Child services had been involved, but closed the case because my sister assured them that she was 60 days clean... They knew that her husband was still using, and that there were guns in the house, but if one crack addict claims to be clean who are they to interfere... Sigh...

So now there will be a divorce... My sister, who has never had a job, is intending to take the house (five bedrooms, six acres, and an attached shop where her husband runs his business)... Her husband intends to give her nothing and keep the kids... Sigh...

Oddly enough, neither my sister nor my father has called to hear my patented "Execute all crack addicts" speech...

People wonder why I choose to live where I live.... Sometimes it's not so much where you are, as it is where your not... Sigh...

I feel for the kids... They both have issues, and only now are we learning where they probably came from... I don't see it ending well for them...

Lot of trouble could have been saved if the people had listened to me back when she was ODing as a teenager and just let nature run its course.... Sigh...


Anyways, gonna finish my drink... Happy birthday again Smelled... Then it's off to never never land... Cheers all🍷🍷🍷

Smedley_buzkill

I am truly sorry to hear the news. Several of us here have had similar situations.

JFlorio Loc: Seminole Florida

I lost a step daughter to drugs. the absolute blindness of some involved was stupefying.

JFlorio Loc: Seminole Florida

I feel your frustration. Hope it turns out for the best. Good luck.

Canuckus Deploracus Loc: North of the wall

I have difficulty fathoming how a parent can engage in such behavior... I also have difficulty understanding why some folk become parents...

Looking back, I recall that they broke up but were living together when she became pregnant with my niece.... Sigh...

Always liked him... Plumber, started his own business, played hockey... Knew they smoked marijuana... But this...

Sorry about your step daughter... I think in some ways that would be harder... Choosing to love someone, as opposed to it being expected....

Wonttakeitanymore

Pray for them! God is a God of miracles! My son went to live in New York after he quit college! Did ok cause God always watching over him! When I got C***d pneumonia he came home to take care of me! Then he decided it was time to come back to cally! Praise aGod! Praying for your family!

Tiptop789 Loc: State of Denial

Sorry to hear, life can be messed up sometimes. You think the nightmare can't get worse but then you awake & realize you live in North Korea. Hope you have a better day

skyrider

Don't let it get to you Canuk. Family or not family, the cold hard bottom line is -You are you and They are they.

lpnmajor Loc: Arkansas

Addiction is a family disease. Folks using cocaine, in what ever form, are especially harder to deal with, as cocaine is the only ( that I know of ) illicit drug that actually changes brain chemistry to autonomously beg for more. People addicted to other drugs, including alcohol, require a conscious choice to continue using. If a crack addict claims to be "clean" for any length of time, outside of a locked down treatment facility........................they are lying through their teeth.

There is really only one solution; the children must become wards of the State ( pending any relative applying to take them ), the addicts must be committed to a locked down treatment facility for at least one year, followed by at least one year of supervised release, before ANY consideration for returning the children to their birth parents.

It ain't pretty. You have my sympathy.

plumbob Loc: Common Sense USA

Hey CD long time not talking to you. I feel for you on the post and one sentence hits home with me. " People wonder why I choose to live where I live.... Sometimes it's not so much where you are, as it is where your not... Sigh."

In a way count your blessings being so far away from the drama. We recently moved from 400 miles away back to the land of family Drama. It was so nice to hang up the phone after verbal support and now we are back in the mist of it.

Life will go on but it's a shame family isn't like friends. Can't pick and choose.

jSmitty45 Loc: Fl born, lived in Texas 30 yrs, now Louisiana

So sorry this is happening in your family.
Praying this will turn around for the good for all.

jSmitty45 Loc: Fl born, lived in Texas 30 yrs, now Louisiana

Amen

jSmitty45 Loc: Fl born, lived in Texas 30 yrs, now Louisiana

My daughter was on crack, but she overcame by the grace of God, been clean, and sober fir over 16 years now. Thank God she had no children. Good can remove that addiction, you just have to ask him.

Ricktloml

So sorry for your family troubles. At this point only God can help, and then only if HE and His help is wanted, but pray for their eyes to be opened, and the children to be safe