http://thefederalist.com/2018/10/12/kavanaugh-smear-war-broke-decades-long-support-feminism/

The Kavanaugh Smear War Broke My Decades-Long Support For Feminism

For too many years, I silently stood by and watched third-wave feminism methodically take a sledgehammer to Western society as a whole, and males in particular.

Albert Marrewa
For more than two decades, I traveled the country facilitating rape and assault prevention lectures, seminars, and workshops for women of all ages. I was passionate about this work, committed to the cause, and believed wholeheartedly that what I was doing was a wholly virtuous endeavor. I considered myself a feminist. But that was then, and this is now.

All these years I silently stood by and watched third-wave feminism (with assistance from the radical left) methodically take a sledgehammer to Western society as a whole, and males in particular. Foolishly, I hoped things would eventually turn around, only to see things get worse over time.

Yet it wasn’t until I witnessed the Me Too movement snowball into an all-out, anti-male witch hunt that I realized good men were in real trouble. Astonishingly, after having been an advocate for women my entire adult life, I quickly learned I was still considered the “enemy,” simply for being a man.

Never in my wildest dreams (or nightmares) did I imagine that someday the opposite sex would view me as a threat. But it’s true, and “their” message is loud and clear: Even if you’ve been a staunch supporter of women’s rights for years, taught thousands of women and girls (many of whom were survivors of sexual assault) how to defend themselves from a violent attacker, and authored a book on the subject, you are not to be trusted solely because of your sex.

One needn’t look too far to see that today’s hyper-feminism climate has men throughout the Western world walking on eggshells at work, at home, everywhere. As a counselor, my male clients routinely voice concerns about having targets on their backs simply because they are men, and I am reticent to take on new female clients out of fear of being falsely accused of sexual impropriety.

Make no mistake: One of the goals of the radical feminist is to persecute any man who dares to wear his masculinity on his sleeve. In fact, masculinity is their true adversary.

To be sure, every man—regardless of his age, race, political persuasion, or sexual orientation—is in their crosshairs, but especially those who embody traditional masculine qualities, such as strength, discipline, direction, independence, confidence, and assertiveness. And God help him if he’s also white, Christian, conservative, affluent, or holds a position of power.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve spent a lifetime trying to be a good man, and to live a life of true meaning and purpose. Although I am far from perfect, I’d like to think that I’ve lived an honorable life, and have been a positive role model. In all my years, I have never intentionally hurt someone, nor have I ever turned my back on anyone who’s come to me for help.

Moreover, I have always aspired to be a fair-minded, compassionate, loving, kind, generous, and forgiving man. While I have fallen short of attaining these noble, masculine ideals on numerous occasions, I’ve never given up on their pursuit, and I never will.

With all of that being said, as I grow ever closer to turning 60, I am far less concerned about my future and well-being than I am about that of the next generation of boys and young men, who seem destined to be further emasculated, disenfranchised, and marginalized should the current climate remain unchanged.

If today’s demonization of males, along with the pathologizing of inherent masculine traits, continues uninterrupted, both sexes are in for much more pain than even today’s chaotic marriage market, anti-male education system, and rise in teen suicide and depression bear witness to.

As regrettable as it is, the recent attempt by all the usual suspects to block Kavanaugh’s confirmation to the U.S. Supreme Court at the eleventh hour by destroying his character, reputation, and life, via salacious, unsubstantiated, and uncorroborated allegations of sexual misconduct dating back thirty-odd years to when he was but a teenager, has obliterated the last vestiges of the “women’s advocate” dwelling inside my heart.

Setting politics aside, watching a good man being taken down by a mob with zero regard for due process and the presumption of innocence is the final straw for me. In other words, I’m done. While it pains me to say this, I will no longer champion any self-described women’s cause unless things dramatically change for the better.

Alas, there was a time when I was a feminist, but sadly, that time has come and gone.

Albert Marrewa is a counselor, mentor, teacher, and guide based in Los Angeles, California. He is the author of several books, including: "The Tao of Masculinity" book series, "The Bliss of Being," "The Feminine Warrior," and the soon-to-be-released books, "Learned Wisdom" and "Spartan Self-Defense."

http://thefederalist.com/2018/10/12/kavanaugh-smear-war-broke-decades-long-support-feminism/

The Kavanaugh Smear War Broke My Decades-Long Support For Feminism

For too many years, I silently stood by and watched third-wave feminism methodically take a sledgehammer to Western society as a whole, and males in particular.

Albert Marrewa
For more than two decades, I traveled the country facilitating rape and assault prevention lectures, seminars, and workshops for women of all ages. I was passionate about this work, committed to the cause, and believed wholeheartedly that what I was doing was a wholly virtuous endeavor. I considered myself a feminist. But that was then, and this is now.

All these years I silently stood by and watched third-wave feminism (with assistance from the radical left) methodically take a sledgehammer to Western society as a whole, and males in particular. Foolishly, I hoped things would eventually turn around, only to see things get worse over time.

Yet it wasn’t until I witnessed the Me Too movement snowball into an all-out, anti-male witch hunt that I realized good men were in real trouble. Astonishingly, after having been an advocate for women my entire adult life, I quickly learned I was still considered the “enemy,” simply for being a man.

Never in my wildest dreams (or nightmares) did I imagine that someday the opposite sex would view me as a threat. But it’s true, and “their” message is loud and clear: Even if you’ve been a staunch supporter of women’s rights for years, taught thousands of women and girls (many of whom were survivors of sexual assault) how to defend themselves from a violent attacker, and authored a book on the subject, you are not to be trusted solely because of your sex.

One needn’t look too far to see that today’s hyper-feminism climate has men throughout the Western world walking on eggshells at work, at home, everywhere. As a counselor, my male clients routinely voice concerns about having targets on their backs simply because they are men, and I am reticent to take on new female clients out of fear of being falsely accused of sexual impropriety.

Make no mistake: One of the goals of the radical feminist is to persecute any man who dares to wear his masculinity on his sleeve. In fact, masculinity is their true adversary.

To be sure, every man—regardless of his age, race, political persuasion, or sexual orientation—is in their crosshairs, but especially those who embody traditional masculine qualities, such as strength, discipline, direction, independence, confidence, and assertiveness. And God help him if he’s also white, Christian, conservative, affluent, or holds a position of power.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve spent a lifetime trying to be a good man, and to live a life of true meaning and purpose. Although I am far from perfect, I’d like to think that I’ve lived an honorable life, and have been a positive role model. In all my years, I have never intentionally hurt someone, nor have I ever turned my back on anyone who’s come to me for help.

Moreover, I have always aspired to be a fair-minded, compassionate, loving, kind, generous, and forgiving man. While I have fallen short of attaining these noble, masculine ideals on numerous occasions, I’ve never given up on their pursuit, and I never will.

With all of that being said, as I grow ever closer to turning 60, I am far less concerned about my future and well-being than I am about that of the next generation of boys and young men, who seem destined to be further emasculated, disenfranchised, and marginalized should the current climate remain unchanged.

If today’s demonization of males, along with the pathologizing of inherent masculine traits, continues uninterrupted, both sexes are in for much more pain than even today’s chaotic marriage market, anti-male education system, and rise in teen suicide and depression bear witness to.

As regrettable as it is, the recent attempt by all the usual suspects to block Kavanaugh’s confirmation to the U.S. Supreme Court at the eleventh hour by destroying his character, reputation, and life, via salacious, unsubstantiated, and uncorroborated allegations of sexual misconduct dating back thirty-odd years to when he was but a teenager, has obliterated the last vestiges of the “women’s advocate” dwelling inside my heart.

Setting politics aside, watching a good man being taken down by a mob with zero regard for due process and the presumption of innocence is the final straw for me. In other words, I’m done. While it pains me to say this, I will no longer champion any self-described women’s cause unless things dramatically change for the better.

Alas, there was a time when I was a feminist, but sadly, that time has come and gone.

Albert Marrewa is a counselor, mentor, teacher, and guide based in Los Angeles, California. He is the author of several books, including: "The Tao of Masculinity" book series, "The Bliss of Being," "The Feminine Warrior," and the soon-to-be-released books, "Learned Wisdom" and "Spartan Self-Defense."

Though old, and of a different era I suppose, I am a woman and I totally agree with him. The current man-hating women is going (already gone) the same way as the unlimited right to a******n. Women were not satisfied with getting legal a******ns during the first trimester, but had to keep pushing, pushing for no limits a******n, for the right to a******n right up to the moment of birth. That pushing the issue to the extremes turned many people, including wonen, against the a******n cause. Now, they are doing the same about men whole basing their cause on punishing men who rape. But, again, they have gone too far, willing to punish a man who compliments their appearance, who holds a door ooen for them, who as a teenager tried to fondle and kiss you when you willingly went into the bedroom with him. Too far!!!! In both these instances, women have done, and are doing great harm to women and to the male/female relationship everywhere.

SinnieK, yesterday at the library one of the librarians had on an absolutely stunning dress. Years past I could’ve remarked how beautiful her dress was and thank her for looking like a woman. Yesterday I found myself having to act as though I never saw her and could only afford a moments glance.
How sad it’s become to realize that I can no longer compliment a woman for looking like a women.
I still hold the doors wherever I go, I still offer my hand on wet or unsteady ground, but the majority of women that I encounter now don’t even utter a small thank you.
I also live in a very blue state area with many people who can’t even figure out which washroom to use.
My wife loves being treated like a beautiful, feminine woman and for that I’m eternally grateful.

Have said much the same in posts I have posted in here as well..

The feminine Warrior is no warrior.. She is a cynical, manipulative insecure person who resents still believing men are her enemy and why she doesn’t achieve..It is too difficult for her to accept she hasn’t achieved because she didn't have the necessary sk**l or stood up for herself if she felt she was worthy.. Enough laws on the books to right the injustices of discrimination where warranted, if warranted....

You bet there is a jump on the bandwagon era of false accusations years if not decades after some sort of alledged assault took place.. They see how easy men are caving because of their position or family etc...

Men are under attack and most likely are becoming more paranoid about these feminist that give a bad name to the r**l w***n of this era who does know her value and doesn’t need to burn their bra’s or wear their vagina around their neck or swear worse than most men simply to bring attention to themself!! As if any of that gleans respect...

I like your traditionalism, Linda. I will open a door for U anytime. Let my tell U about one of my bugs with females. They want to be equal to a man. Ok, then they can open doors for me. Oh no! They would never do that; no quid -pro- quo, just their cake and eat it too. I have been accused of making one PG when it was impossible. No bullets in the gun.
I am appauled by their lack of self confidence and need to blame the man for everything they did not achieve.. They want recognition of equal pay, equal rights and respect while attacking and putting the man through unfounded allegations using sex as their tool!! The very same damn tool they believe they were “forced” to use in order to get ahead!!... There is their hypocrasy! What an embarrassment as well!!

I have been asked if I was a feminist before and I always say, not a feminist but am feminine in my belief.. I enoy a man opening a door for me, or allowing me to enter through a door first or takes my hand so I don’t slip on the wet ground etc... I am extremely Thankful for all who maintain their respect in the actions they show and do not need to compete with him... We were made differently for a very good reason and I very much enjoy those differences... Men are raised to be the bread winner and to protect his family.. Why would I want to stiffle him in his need to protect and provide.. I fell in love with him because of who he was not what I can change him into..” why do these feminist believe they need to change the man culture to their ( womens) culture?? They better be damned cautious over what they wish for!! G****r identity is already on the attack !!! And I’m not ready to give up being a lady, I rather enjoy my g****r....

Have said much the same in posts I have posted in here as well..

The feminine Warrior is no warrior.. She is a cynical, manipulative insecure person who resents still believing men are her enemy and why she doesn’t achieve..It is too difficult for her to accept she hasn’t achieved because she didn't have the necessary sk**l or stood up for herself if she felt she was worthy.. Enough laws on the books to right the injustices of discrimination where warranted, if warranted....

You bet there is a jump on the bandwagon era of false accusations years if not decades after some sort of alledged assault took place.. They see how easy men are caving because of their position or family etc...

Men are under attack and most likely are becoming more paranoid about these feminist that give a bad name to the r**l w***n of this era who does know her value and doesn’t need to burn their bra’s or wear their vagina around their neck or swear worse than most men simply to bring attention to themself!! As if any of that gleans respect...

I am appauled by their lack of self confidence and need to blame the man for everything they did not achieve.. They want recognition of equal pay, equal rights and respect while attacking and putting the man through unfounded allegations using sex as their tool!! The very same damn tool they believe they were “forced” to use in order to get ahead!!... There is their hypocrasy! What an embarrassment as well!!

I have been asked if I was a feminist before and I always say, not a feminist but am feminine in my belief.. I enoy a man opening a door for me, or allowing me to enter through a door first or takes my hand so I don’t slip on the wet ground etc... I am extremely Thankful for all who maintain their respect in the actions they show and do not need to compete with him... We were made differently for a very good reason and I very much enjoy those differences... Men are raised to be the bread winner and to protect his family.. Why would I want to stiffle him in his need to protect and provide.. I fell in love with him because of who he was not what I can change him into..” why do these feminist believe they need to change the man culture to their ( womens) culture?? They better be damned cautious over what they wish for!! G****r identity is already on the attack !!! And I’m not ready to give up being a lady, I rather enjoy my g****r....

Im for sure not feminist......Still like my doors open for me, and flowers etc....

The feminine Warrior is no warrior.. She is a cynical, manipulative insecure person who resents still believing men are her enemy and why she doesn’t achieve..It is too difficult for her to accept she hasn’t achieved because she didn't have the necessary sk**l or stood up for herself if she felt she was worthy.. Enough laws on the books to right the injustices of discrimination where warranted, if warranted....

You bet there is a jump on the bandwagon era of false accusations years if not decades after some sort of alledged assault took place.. They see how easy men are caving because of their position or family etc...

Men are under attack and most likely are becoming more paranoid about these feminist that give a bad name to the r**l w***n of this era who does know her value and doesn’t need to burn their bra’s or wear their vagina around their neck or swear worse than most men simply to bring attention to themself!! As if any of that gleans respect...

I am appauled by their lack of self confidence and need to blame the man for everything they did not achieve.. They want recognition of equal pay, equal rights and respect while attacking and putting the man through unfounded allegations using sex as their tool!! The very same damn tool they believe they were “forced” to use in order to get ahead!!... There is their hypocrasy! What an embarrassment as well!!

I have been asked if I was a feminist before and I always say, not a feminist but am feminine in my belief.. I enoy a man opening a door for me, or allowing me to enter through a door first or takes my hand so I don’t slip on the wet ground etc... I am extremely Thankful for all who maintain their respect in the actions they show and do not need to compete with him... We were made differently for a very good reason and I very much enjoy those differences... Men are raised to be the bread winner and to protect his family.. Why would I want to stiffle him in his need to protect and provide.. I fell in love with him because of who he was not what I can change him into..” why do these feminist believe they need to change the man culture to their ( womens) culture?? They better be damned cautious over what they wish for!! G****r identity is already on the attack !!! And I’m not ready to give up being a lady, I rather enjoy my g****r....

Though old, and of a different era I suppose, I am a woman and I totally agree with him. The current man-hating women is going (already gone) the same way as the unlimited right to a******n. Women were not satisfied with getting legal a******ns during the first trimester, but had to keep pushing, pushing for no limits a******n, for the right to a******n right up to the moment of birth. That pushing the issue to the extremes turned many people, including wonen, against the a******n cause. Now, they are doing the same about men whole basing their cause on punishing men who rape. But, again, they have gone too far, willing to punish a man who compliments their appearance, who holds a door ooen for them, who as a teenager tried to fondle and kiss you when you willingly went into the bedroom with him. Too far!!!! In both these instances, women have done, and are doing great harm to women and to the male/female relationship everywhere.