deb_bus Loc: fort worth and wichita falls tx, and houston

Thank you Grace Scott. I know all about bi-polar and nothing about grieving. Some say it will be a year before I come out of the grieving. But I can't see it
I'll never forget my husband of 29 years. He was a good husband, good provider and an all around good man. It's only been 3 1/2 weeks since he passed. If it wasn't for my anti-deppressants, I would be In a lot worse shape. I cry daily for losing him. Thank you for understanding.

grace scott

In have an acquaintance who has not cleaned out her husband's closet, and it's been over 5 years. When she is depressed or has a problem, she goes into his closet, closes the door and takes a few deep breaths. It still smells like him and gives her comfort. We all have our odd coping mechanisms.

Searching Loc: Rural Southwest VA

Deb, we all are as different from one another as the snowflakes created by God that fall from the sky. There is no time limit to mourning, no commonality to grieving. YOU get through it on your time -- NO ONE else's. Don't let anyone deem it "time" for you to be "over" it. It took me what felt FOREVER to get over my father's death. He left this earth in June of 1998. It feels like yesterday, and if I allow myself to really go back in time, it is still painful. That said, be kind to yourself and allow yourself to retreat. I wish I had the ability to make your pain disappear, truly.

Coos Bay Tom Loc: coos bay oregon

My heart goes out to you both. I lost my wife 16 years ago and I think of her every day. I does get better so hang in there you are not alone.You can't stop loving someone.

Searching Loc: Rural Southwest VA

I feel for you as well. I am sure that you must still have days that take you back. You and I know, it does get better. I wish I could t***sport Deb to a different place.

The difference, for me, is that my dad "chose" to leave this earth. The fact that he was a deacon in his church (practically spitting distance from the mail box at the end of the driveway), that he had finished reading the Bible all the way through for the 4th time the day before he died, held no relevance. He "chose" to leave and even though I have made peace with his leaving and I shall be forever grateful that while his last words were screamed at me through the phone, mine were spoken softly, with no anger, only with love, it smarts. I sensed this was his final "good bye" and I had done ALL that I could do to prevent it. I could do no more. Do I still wish I could have locked him in a room with no windows, no nothing for him to end his life with? Absolutely. The bottom line -- regardless of how our loved ones leave us, it hurts. It leaves an empty place in our hearts that somehow never "quite" gets filled.

AuntiE Loc: 45th Least Free State

In hopes it will help, Psalms 34:18.

grace scott

AuntiE, I'm wearing out my Bible looking up your references. This was a really good one, as usual.

deb_bus Loc: fort worth and wichita falls tx, and houston

Thank you to all that responded to my grieving. It's only been 3 1/2 weeks and it's real fresh on my mind. I, too, smell his clotges. I can't bring myself to giving his clothes away just yet. O feel for everyone in this post who are still griving somebody. May the Lord be with you all. And me. Love from Houston - Debbie

Coos Bay Tom Loc: coos bay oregon

It has not been long or you. you need time and in time you are gonna be just fine. been there so I know.

deb_bus Loc: fort worth and wichita falls tx, and houston

Thank you. I need to know that. Sometimes I feel like I'll never get over it. It was all so unexpected. He went in with broken ribs from falling and got a blood infection. His lung had been punctured and he was bleeding inside his lung. The blood infection went to his heart and he had a massive heart attack. They tried to revive him through CPR but to no avail. It was a horrible scene. I was there for it all. I tried to holller at him to come back but he didn't. We were very close. I miss him terribly. Thanx to people like you and others, I feel there Is hope to stop grieving so much. Sometimes it's hard to function. To everyone who has been there and responded, may God richly bless you. Thank you again.