Morgan wrote:
How about the men who can't keep their dicks in their pants, or are we not suppose to go there? The ol double standard once again, the only difference is the women are straddled with the responsibility and the men just walk.
Maybe if parents were more accepting and the men man-upped, the women would not choose abortion.
Let's go there. Both sexes have the urge to merge. If a pregnancy results from this urge, who has the greater chance to suffer?
If you said the woman you're more than half right. She will face radical, immediate, life-changing options. Does she abort/murder the child for her own selfish reasons, does she carry it to term and put the baby up for adoption, if she doesn't want the child, does the ex, or does she say no to the ex because he walked and she feels rejected and her new mission in life is to punish him, or does she welcome the child with love and say I don't know how we will survive but I'm not walking out on you? Or does she have her tubes tied or pay a lot more attention to birth control devices? Is the child going to have a string of "uncles" moving in and out of their lives? Or does she swear off men and find a girlfriend? Or will she find a less attractive, dull, good guy she really doesn't love, so he can pay the bills? Women usually fall into one of these categories when they find themselves in these circumstances. So, without a doubt, women get the short end of the stick, (no pun intended) so women have to protect themselves by learning how to say NO. The man isn't going to because he can't get pregnant. It has to be the woman.
The man found the woman attractive at first. Maybe as a possible future wife or just wanted sex. Unless he rapes or drugs her it was her choice and it was consensual. He learns the woman is pregnant and walks? Does he know he isn't fit to be a dad, has he discovered he really doesn't want to marry her for whatever reason, does he suspect the child may not be his, will an unwanted child cancel all his goals and dreams, is he simply afraid, or was she just another notch in his "I'd tap that" belt?
So, initially, the woman is going to suffer most from not saying "NO" when she had the chance. The man if he is any kind of man is going to suffer also, is that child really my child, are they alive or dead, where are they, are they happy, loved, protected, or doing without, neglected, abused because they look like me? He may keep tabs on the woman and child over the years or he may forget the woman in a heartbeat and never look back.
Two maybe three more scarred for life people, all because someone didn't say NO for a few minutes of selfish pleasure. There are plenty of good men and women who avoid this situation somehow even though they had premarital sex. Some get pregnant when they lose the virginity. Some do it the smart way, they endure the teasing of friends and say I'll wait. They don't put themselves in a position of being drunk or out of control. First comes marriage and then the baby carriage.
Women have to relearn to say NO and mean it. I want an "I Do" before we "Do It". That is, if, they respect themselves instead of demanding others respect them when others will never know what's in a woman's heart, mind, and dreams. Everyone is responsible for their own actions and it's consequences. Most men will sweet talk you, pay attention to you, flatter you, buy you stuff, and actually talk to you and look you in the eyes to have sex. This is when a woman has 100% control and it's one of the last, use it to your advantage.
Women and men both hate this one, abstinence is 100% effective, no aids, herpes, STDs, etc... or broken spirits. Which one do schools gloss over? Men will never keep it in their pants if women let them into their panties. You will improve your odds of a more enjoyable life with fewer regrets with the ability to say NO, and keep your word to "yourself", your parents and grandparents if you have them.
Saying it isn't fair or right... isn't going to change it. You have to deal with things as they are, not as you wish they were. It's been this way for about 5,777 years, give or take. Just because it's the 21st Century and we have smartphones/homes and computers, the common human condition hasn't changed.