QuestGirl wrote:
I wondered as I typed those words. I assumed, my apologies. Goes to show my "idiocy", yet again!!!
That is most exceptional work. I believe it is rampant in our society. I do not know the statistics, but I would bet well over 50%, if truth be known. A child's home should be safe from harm and many are not. It runs across the entire spectrum of our "classes" in society. This diabolical pedogate is yet another issue and I am not including it here.
I can't even imagine, much less fathom this atrociousity to experience as a child. It's horrendously grievious to me and quite obvious in the eyes of a child, when one takes the time to see it.
These boys are your children, and their children your grandchildren. Parents are caregivers for the entire well being of a child, regardless of blood relation. Forty years worth of lost children saved gives me a bit of insight as to the origins of SWMBO's most appropriate nickname. Your home is truly blessed indeed!
While my daughter was growing up, I pulled two girls out of bad situations. One, the new girl in town with a blatantly apparent life time of sexual abuse, came to spend the night and stayed for two weeks and anytime thereafter. The first girl, a most remarkable child, took me two weeks to pull into my home until her mother could find a more permanent place of their own. The evil these two girls had lived under was palatable, in proximity.
The first girl, the remarkable one, was smart enough and strong enough to fend off her attacker (not related) she later told me. He didn't mess with her again. Several years later he was found guilty on at least 17 counts. I can only assume he is still alive, in jail.
She is marrying into a hunt and trap family, and has taken down at least 2 deer, last I heard, and learning to bow and arrow. Her parents were two messed up alcoholic junkies from well to do "good" homes, both dead by the time she was 19. Yet, she inherited the best of both, her dad's smarts and her mom's spirit. Frankly, it wouldn't surprise me if both were of genius level, or at least gifted. I know their daughter certainly is, a remarkable child. Or rather, a remarkable young woman now.
I don't know what became of the other girl. Other than she had a baby and named her after me, only with an "ie" on the end. That's just what I only think, anyway.
In my opinion, children are not resilient, they simply have no other options. It is a difficult task to fix children, once grown into adults.
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No need to apologize for not knowing that we have no biological children. I don't think anyone starts out their posts on OPP by explaining their life story, it just slowly emerges as it fits into conversations on line.
When NPP had double by-pass surgery in October, I stayed with a young couple near the hospital. The young man is the son of the surgeon and the surgeon is one of our boys from 35 years ago. We had stayed in touch, been at his wedding and even visited a couple of times after that so when NPP needed a heart surgeon we knew where to go, and we were blessed by his caring and skilled hands. NPP is well on the mend, back to working too hard, and his warped and wonderful sense of humor is back in full force. The boys and young men we have worked with, through a great Christian organization, have given us much more than we could ever give them. We even went to a wedding of a great guy who is one of "our boys" of another counselor, and a long story from one of our earliest postings. I don't know if there is any way to search "the wedding" as posted by AuntiE and see the paintings of the dogs being flower children and ushers at the wedding. It was a great celebration!! a memory that will remain with me always.
by the way She Who Must Be Obeyed came from a book title SHE by H Ryder Haggard, and was my nickname because in the dog obedience classes I have run for years I always emphasize that the trainer must be obeyed, but willingly and happily, by the dog.