Morgan wrote:
Good Morning byrong, Yes I understand what you're saying, let me clarify if I may, I personally I am not for abortion, period, I had my last child at 43, which was a substantial risk to me for medical reasons and my unborn child and with the nudging from my husband not to go through with it. But in the end, it was my choice, my body, that's just the way it is. We are the ones to bear the burden. I told my husband we would have this baby, he was somewhat frustrated and upset, to say the least. Because of my age they wanted to do an amniocentesis, but here's the fun part, during the process, we watched the little guy on the tv monitor, this was still fairly early on, he had one hand on his nuts while sucking his thumb, eveyone in the room began to laugh, as this is when the doc told us it was a boy...but as we watched, along with this long needle being seen, this tiny infant stopped sucking his thumb reached up and poked the needle with his finger, I'm not making this stuff up, I have wittnesses, LOL. It was amazing.
I was anti-abortion since I did a research paper on it ...in high school! So now you know exactly where I stand personally. But I still cannot make a decision for anyone else and neither can the government. It really has to come from a raised consciousness and awareness. It can't be forced by anyone, the girl or woman has to become more aware of the life and less afraid of taking the child to term and giving the child up for adoption. I believe most of the fear stems from feeling financially incapable and being alone to deal with it all.(As far as a young single girl) but they are not the only ones.
There is also a pill now, the does not abort a baby but stops the fertilization, called the day after pill. I'm not sure of the cost or availability. By this fact alone we should not be seeing abortions at all.
We have to look at the big picture and giving a government the power over anyone's body is a BIG mistake.
PS my son is such a gift and my husband loves him so much and sees that he was also thinking out of fear at the time.
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Morgan, if I may interject, I, too, want to congratulate you in keeping your last child. As long as everything went alright and he’s doing well. You were running a huge risk, though.
However, and just so you know where I’m coming from, while I’m not Pro-Abortion, I am Pro-Choice. As a man, I don’t think it’s my right, unless it’s my own wife, to try to pressure a woman to either carry a pregnancy to term or to abort it. I simply believe that it’s a woman’s body and she should have the final say in want she wants to do with it. I believe you said that yourself.
That said, I don’t believe that any government should try to exercise any control over a woman's body, either. We don’t need to return to the days of back-alley abortions where women died by the hundreds, depending upon your timeframe for counting the deaths, because of botched abortions. To remove the option of an abortion, to me, is the same as authorizing the killing of women. And, to think that by outlawing abortions, that we’ll stop them, borders on the insane.
It would be nice if girls, once they decide to become sexually active, were put on birth control pills. That would be one way to stop unwanted pregnancies. Or, to be allowed more access to the “morning after” pill. But, on the flip-side, these actions could be putting the wrong message out there to girls - and boys - that it’s okay to have sex at too early an age.
We’ve all gone through the “raging hormone” days. So, we all should remember what it’s like for our adolescent kids. Stopping kids - or adults - from having sex is like trying to stop a locomotive by pushing it from the front while it’s traveling down the tracks at 80 mph. It ain’t gonna happen. As such, we need to be realistic when we talk to our kids and adults about sex and all of its ramifications. And, we needn’t outlaw a particular means of stopping an unwanted pregnancy. It boils down to one set of people trying to force their moral beliefs onto another set of people. Lord knows, there’s too much of that going-on right now.
Many Christians want to say that it’s against God’s commandments to abort a child. But, how many of them actually know that to the ancient Jews - and many modern ones - that a child wasn’t considered a “person” until it’s head had exited the mother’s body? Or, that when counting their census, that no children younger than 7 were counted? Why? Because too many children died before their 7th birthday due to various reasons.
Also, how many Christians have read the following passage in their Holy Bible? In it God demands the killing of an unborn child if the mother is found guilty of becoming pregnant by someone other than her husband. He even provides the method by which the unborn is aborted. BTW, I’m a Christian, too.
From BibleGateway.com
Numbers 5:11-31 NIV
Numbers 5:11-31New International Version (NIV)
The Test for an Unfaithful Wife:
11 Then the Lord said to Moses, 12 “Speak to the Israelites and say to them: ‘If a man’s wife goes astray and is unfaithful to him 13 so that another man has sexual relations with her, and this is hidden from her husband and her impurity is undetected (since there is no witness against her and she has not been caught in the act), 14 and if feelings of jealousy come over her husband and he suspects his wife and she is impure—or if he is jealous and suspects her even though she is not impure— 15 then he is to take his wife to the priest. He must also take an offering of a tenth of an ephah[a] of barley flour on her behalf. He must not pour olive oil on it or put incense on it, because it is a grain offering for jealousy, a reminder-offering to draw attention to wrongdoing.
16 “‘The priest shall bring her and have her stand before the Lord. 17 Then he shall take some holy water in a clay jar and put some dust from the tabernacle floor into the water. 18 After the priest has had the woman stand before the Lord, he shall loosen her hair and place in her hands the reminder-offering, the grain offering for jealousy, while he himself holds the bitter water that brings a curse. 19 Then the priest shall put the woman under oath and say to her, “If no other man has had sexual relations with you and you have not gone astray and become impure while married to your husband, may this bitter water that brings a curse not harm you. 20 But if you have gone astray while married to your husband and you have made yourself impure by having sexual relations with a man other than your husband”— 21 here the priest is to put the woman under this curse—“may the Lord cause you to become a curse[b] among your people when he makes your womb miscarry and your abdomen swell. 22 May this water that brings a curse enter your body so that your abdomen swells or your womb miscarries.”
“‘Then the woman is to say, “Amen. So be it.”
23 “‘The priest is to write these curses on a scroll and then wash them off into the bitter water. 24 He shall make the woman drink the bitter water that brings a curse, and this water that brings a curse and causes bitter suffering will enter her. 25 The priest is to take from her hands the grain offering for jealousy, wave it before the Lord and bring it to the altar. 26 The priest is then to take a handful of the grain offering as a memorial[c] offering and burn it on the altar; after that, he is to have the woman drink the water. 27 If she has made herself impure and been unfaithful to her husband, this will be the result: When she is made to drink the water that brings a curse and causes bitter suffering, it will enter her, her abdomen will swell and her womb will miscarry, and she will become a curse. 28 If, however, the woman has not made herself impure, but is clean, she will be cleared of guilt and will be able to have children.
29 “‘This, then, is the law of jealousy when a woman goes astray and makes herself impure while married to her husband, 30 or when feelings of jealousy come over a man because he suspects his wife. The priest is to have her stand before the Lord and is to apply this entire law to her. 31 The husband will be innocent of any wrongdoing, but the woman will bear the consequences of her sin.’”
After reading this passage, Morgan, tell me, as a woman, do you feel that God is treating the man who impregnated her, and her husband, the same as He treats the woman and her baby? I sure don’t. And, allowing just the “FEELING” of jealousy to be the only reason to justifiably put a wife through such an ordeal?
But, I’m not God and don’t want to be, either. Too much blame and not enough praise goes with the job. But, in this case, it the blame legit?
Just saying ...