archie bunker Loc: Texas

I had my share of whoopings as a youngster. So did my kids.
We all s http://joeforamerica.com/2014/01/please-spank-kids/ eem to be ok now.

nightwatchdog Loc: The New World

A good idea.

It's a pitty that we can't spank some adults as well.

Brian Devon

You can. Go to D.C. and sign up to work for a high priced escort service that specializes in sado-masochism. You will find some of your best customers will be politicos.

Duckie

I was told all my life that "spanking" is not harmful to children and young teens. I agree that a smack on the hand or on the behind does get one's attention very quickly. Also I have noticed that todays children are more and more disrespectful to not only their parents but to others and for that matter their friends. More teens are participating in crime, and not just petty crime but the hard core type. It all goes back to child rearing and correcting bad behavior immediately. Having said that, I am a product of abusive parents. I would get "it" regardless if I had done something wrong or was guilty of just breathing. It is with this in mind that I think that children deserve a measure of protection from mistreatment. So an across the board thumbs up for parents to render corporal punishment is not in the best interest of either the parents or the child. I remember after severe beating that the parents, whether it was my mother or father, they regretted that they allowed their anger to get the better of them. This pattern actually made them more miserable and because they were miserable, well I was the one who got "it." Corporal punishment has to be used sparingly, with limitations on the weapon used, and the duration.

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archie bunker Loc: Texas

I couldn't agree more! My parents were a little excessive at times. I swore, and stood by it that my kids would never get beat with any convient object. I made a paddle, and they had to bend over and take x amount of swats for whatever infraction.
Mine were never beaten, but they knew consequenses.
Both good people now. And they still love me!!

archie bunker Loc: Texas

And Ducky I hope all is going good for you!! I read your earlier posts, and I hope you are well. I'm not just saying that, I mean it. One human being to another.

Duckie

Thank you, I was afraid that I would be hammered for my posts. I love my Mother and Father, but I lived in fear of them. For this reason I do not think that I will ever return home. I turned 16 in December and I know that my path has only began, but for the foreseeable future I will happily visit them, but to return home is right now out of the question.

You sound like a reasonable parent and one that remained in control of your emotions while dealing with incompatible behaviors. My hat goes off to you!

Duckie

I thank you, I am very happy and remarkably healthy (now that I am over the flu). My circumstances are such that I get corrected when I make mistakes and I am pleased to say that there is no shortage of tolerance and love with my new family. Thank you so much for asking, and I do believe your sincerity in your words!

archie bunker Loc: Texas

Good,Good,Good!! Don't let the past define you! Define yourself!!
Godspeed Duckie!!!!

Armageddun Loc: The show me state

Very well said. I'm so sorry for the abuse in your past. It sounds like you could be a good spokesman .

Disicpline should administered with love and care. The Bible says spare the rod spoil the child. It also says, That we should not mistreat or lead our children unto wrath.
Parethood doesn't come with a manual, but the Bible has some pretty good principles for having a great family life.
I hear some good things about you Duckie keep up the good work.

Duckie

You are most kind. I am learning each day how adults are supposed to raise children and my new Uncle often refers to his teachings as he explains the long range consequences of inappropriate or bad behavior. His son told me that as a young child he did get spanked because it was the only way to correct his behavior. This, he explained, was reserved for most serious offences. I respect my new family and the rules. When they took me in, I admit that I was angry at the world with a very large chip on both my shoulders. I find that when I am honest and write about my experiences, I find people such as yourself who are kind and receptive to my point of view and this makes a difference! It is people like you, and Mr. Bunker that provide me encouragement. So, thank you again for your comment and I hope that in my future posts I maintain or even earn your respect.

AuntiE Loc: 45th Least Free State

Probably TMI; however, I had a narrow ruler. The rule was two warnings and a quick flick of the ruler on a bottom, always clothed. Public misbehavior required a visit to the restroom. It only took twice to say, "Would you like to go to the restroom and discuss your behavior." A child should NOT be "paddled" in public; however, public misbehavior should be dealt with promptly. Little people forget.

I am so sorry you had the difficulties you have endured. It shows your character that you still retain feelings enough for your parents to wish to visit them. It further shows a high level of maturity to know you cannot live with them. Continue on your path of growth and learning. You are succeeding in your efforts.

By the by, your sponsor, you and myself are all December babies.

Proverbs 2:10

Duckie

Happy belated birthday! I hope that you had a wonderful day!

I think that the public misbehavior is more difficult to deal with. Many parents in the past did exactly as you, but now it seems that some fear to discipline, or the smack to the hind end in the restrooms. And modern mothers, the ones who are liberated and think that even a stern "knock it off" scares kids, are very prone to glares and calling the police to report child abuse.

IMO, it is acceptable to warn a child, because as you say little people often have short attention spans and tend to forget, and then a quick snap to the hind end or to the hand. Even in this family, and their family tree is more like a forest, there are lots of little people. Mothers are supposed to correct misbehaviors, but there are rules. No bare butts, marking or leaving bruises is a reason for concern among family members, and time out for parents if they are angry. Hitting a butt in anger is not to teach a child but a form of retribution for the angered adult.

My past is, thank God, in the past. I know that my parents had issues that they could not deal with. It is true that some children that are taught violence as a child grow up to be violent parents and the cycle is hard to break. I can not lie and say that I completely forgive them, but I can say that I am working toward understanding. Being a good parent is the most important job that a person can elect to do.

You are, and have always been, very kind to me. Your encouragement has made a difference and I often think of our first encounter and feel ashamed that I was so disrespectful and very glad that you and the others have forgiven me for those actions. I used to think that it did not matter what other people thought of me, my abilities or lack of abilities. It is difficult to put in words, but I now understand that to be happy, part of that happiness comes from be part of rather than always being on the fringe of society.