That's some help you are giving. I am sure that everyone really appreciates you going in there and looking down on them.
...the strength it takes for them to strike out on their own while realizing the concern about the spouse/partner coming after them as soon as they are on their own?
I didn't think so.
I don't think it ever occurs to you to discern the reasons behind not moving forward.
The safest place they have known for a period of time is that center.
Do them a favor and stay away.
lindajoy wrote:
Must respectfully disagree with you on the people that live in the "projects"..Jobs, part time albeit, are out there and yet most of those in the projects living scenario do choose it over getting out and working..They do not want to follow the rules, don't have to..Free housing, cell phone, food, even extra cash given the number of children they have or keep having is a reward system for them..No incentive to get out of that climate because its all taken care of for them...
I donate some, not enough time, to the women abuse center, helping them file motions for court hearing etc going after dead beat "fathers" or victims of the abused..Living in temporary shelters until they are placed in the very place your talking about..More than 75% of them will not even take the time to fill out the paper work needed...More than 80% of them go right back to the "man" that beat them until they couldn't walk..Go right back to that housing project they claimed was filled with drugs and rapes and nothing good...And that abuser is right back in with them even knowing it will mean they will once again be thrown out..Its a choice and not a choice of ignorance, at all..It's all they know?? No, it is not...Every single one I have helped says, I see how everyone else lives, I want that too..Then they don't show up in court to go after that dead beat father, they don't show up for their random drug tests, they don't fill out the paperwork needed to get themselves into career path vocational training schools, they don't even bother getting their GED which would help them even somewhat..So, yes, they are perfectly content living the way they do lacking motivation to be anything more than they are... A shame too because some appear somewhat bright.....
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