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Sep 16, 2020 08:17:17   #
Bebida Loc: Michigan
 
Tug484 wrote:
It would be hard.
When I married my second husband, my son's were telling him that I made their dad bleed.
I said, I did not.
They took everything off the coffee table and flipped it over.
Blood splatter!
Oh yeah, I forgot about that.
That night more of his beer for poured down the drain.
It wasn't my blood either.
I nailed him between the eyes with a glass of coke and pushed the coffee table upside down with my feet.
It was on! By that, I mean my temper and the fight I brought to him.
It would be hard. br When I married my second husb... (show quote)


GOOD for you. I am an advocate against ABUSIVE Husbands. Not against Husbands but just ABUSIVE ONES!! NO REASON for it!! If you can't get along, get a divorce!! It's MUCH harder on the kids when you stay married in that kind of a relationship!!
I had a couple of them. My last Husband was a SAINT compared to my first ones and we had a GREAT MARRIAGE!!

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Sep 16, 2020 08:55:00   #
SWMBO
 
Bebida wrote:
GOOD for you. I am an advocate against ABUSIVE Husbands. Not against Husbands but just ABUSIVE ONES!! NO REASON for it!! If you can't get along, get a divorce!! It's MUCH harder on the kids when you stay married in that kind of a relationship!!
I had a couple of them. My last Husband was a SAINT compared to my first ones and we had a GREAT MARRIAGE!!


There are also many abusive wives and mothers, it is not just a male behavior. The number of kids we have worked with whose mothers were abusive to them and some of the many men in their lives is very high, so don't blame it all on the men, both sexes can be real bastards and the children pay the cost.

SWMBO

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Sep 16, 2020 09:27:22   #
bahmer
 
SWMBO wrote:
There are also many abusive wives and mothers, it is not just a male behavior. The number of kids we have worked with whose mothers were abusive to them and some of the many men in their lives is very high, so don't blame it all on the men, both sexes can be real bastards and the children pay the cost.

SWMBO


Amen and Amen

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Sep 16, 2020 16:11:22   #
Tug484
 
Bebida wrote:
GOOD for you. I am an advocate against ABUSIVE Husbands. Not against Husbands but just ABUSIVE ONES!! NO REASON for it!! If you can't get along, get a divorce!! It's MUCH harder on the kids when you stay married in that kind of a relationship!!
I had a couple of them. My last Husband was a SAINT compared to my first ones and we had a GREAT MARRIAGE!!



Believe me, I got a divorce.
I always fought back.
His boss kept noticing marks on him.
His boss told my dad he'd ask what happened.
He'd say he fell over a kids toy.
His boss told my dad I knew that wasn't true and what was going on.
His boss told him, why don't you just whip her ass.
He told his boss I can't, I've tried.
If my dad hadn't told me, I wouldn't have known about that conversation.
I'm not proud of it, but it's either fight or take it and I'm never going to take it, so I see one choice.
It comes down to fight or flight.

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Sep 16, 2020 16:27:59   #
Bebida Loc: Michigan
 
Tug484 wrote:
Believe me, I got a divorce.
I always fought back.
His boss kept noticing marks on him.
His boss told my dad he'd ask what happened.
He'd say he fell over a kids toy.
His boss told my dad I knew that wasn't true and what was going on.
His boss told him, why don't you just whip her ass.
He told his boss I can't, I've tried.
If my dad hadn't told me, I wouldn't have known about that conversation.
I'm not proud of it, but it's either fight or take it and I'm never going to take it, so I see one choice.
It comes down to fight or flight.
Believe me, I got a divorce. br I always fought ba... (show quote)


LOVE your story. GOOD for YOU!!

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Sep 16, 2020 16:39:07   #
Bebida Loc: Michigan
 
SWMBO wrote:
There are also many abusive wives and mothers, it is not just a male behavior. The number of kids we have worked with whose mothers were abusive to them and some of the many men in their lives is very high, so don't blame it all on the men, both sexes can be real bastards and the children pay the cost.

SWMBO


I will never claim it is all men, because I know there are abusive Mothers and Wives. But I think maybe they are just getting BACK at men that were abusive to them. And abusive is NOT always with the fists either. MANY men like to control their wives by verbal abuse. I have always said if a man hits a woman, she has the right to hit him BACK with wh**ever it takes to give her the same strength that he has. But if a woman likes to slap her Hubby around, I guess the same applies to her too.
My Last Hubby and were married 28 yrs. He never hit me and I never hit him. We got along GREAT. He did not verbally abuse me and I didn't him. We RARELY ever even had words. If he was unhappy with something I did, he told me. I would either explain why I did it, or apologize. He would do the same if He did something I didn't like. Then it was forgotten. We never dwelled on the negative! There was just no future to it.

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Sep 16, 2020 18:48:39   #
Tug484
 
Bebida wrote:
LOVE your story. GOOD for YOU!!


Thank you.

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Sep 16, 2020 20:08:06   #
archie bunker Loc: Texas
 
Bebida wrote:
I will never claim it is all men, because I know there are abusive Mothers and Wives. But I think maybe they are just getting BACK at men that were abusive to them. And abusive is NOT always with the fists either. MANY men like to control their wives by verbal abuse. I have always said if a man hits a woman, she has the right to hit him BACK with wh**ever it takes to give her the same strength that he has. But if a woman likes to slap her Hubby around, I guess the same applies to her too.
My Last Hubby and were married 28 yrs. He never hit me and I never hit him. We got along GREAT. He did not verbally abuse me and I didn't him. We RARELY ever even had words. If he was unhappy with something I did, he told me. I would either explain why I did it, or apologize. He would do the same if He did something I didn't like. Then it was forgotten. We never dwelled on the negative! There was just no future to it.
I will never claim it is all men, because I know t... (show quote)


It goes both ways with verbal, and physical abuse. My first wife was a stone cold b***h who used both.

I only laid a hand on her once after warning her that if she hit me again, she was gonna get it back. Well, soon enough, she lost her temper, and punched me with a closed fist on the ear since I dodged. Otherwise, it would have been square in the mouth.
I slapped her with an open hand, and less than half my power. She folded like a cheap lawnchair, and called me a wifebeater.

Long story short, I won custody of the kids, the property, and livestock after a 3 1/2 hour court battle. This was in 1996 in Texas.
She never paid a dime in child support though, and for some reason, I couldn't get them to go after her for it.
She's on husband #5 now, and I still have to see her at events with the kids, and grandkids.
I STILL wanna kick her in the cooter as hard as I can every time I lay eyes on her.

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Sep 16, 2020 20:50:09   #
SWMBO
 
Bebida wrote:
I will never claim it is all men, because I know there are abusive Mothers and Wives. But I think maybe they are just getting BACK at men that were abusive to them. And abusive is NOT always with the fists either. MANY men like to control their wives by verbal abuse. I have always said if a man hits a woman, she has the right to hit him BACK with wh**ever it takes to give her the same strength that he has. But if a woman likes to slap her Hubby around, I guess the same applies to her too.
My Last Hubby and were married 28 yrs. He never hit me and I never hit him. We got along GREAT. He did not verbally abuse me and I didn't him. We RARELY ever even had words. If he was unhappy with something I did, he told me. I would either explain why I did it, or apologize. He would do the same if He did something I didn't like. Then it was forgotten. We never dwelled on the negative! There was just no future to it.
I will never claim it is all men, because I know t... (show quote)


We have been very blessed. Over 55 years married and still very much in love.

NPP and SWMBO

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Sep 16, 2020 22:18:56   #
Canuckus Deploracus Loc: North of the wall
 
archie bunker wrote:
It goes both ways with verbal, and physical abuse. My first wife was a stone cold b***h who used both.

I only laid a hand on her once after warning her that if she hit me again, she was gonna get it back. Well, soon enough, she lost her temper, and punched me with a closed fist on the ear since I dodged. Otherwise, it would have been square in the mouth.
I slapped her with an open hand, and less than half my power. She folded like a cheap lawnchair, and called me a wifebeater.

Long story short, I won custody of the kids, the property, and livestock after a 3 1/2 hour court battle. This was in 1996 in Texas.
She never paid a dime in child support though, and for some reason, I couldn't get them to go after her for it.
She's on husband #5 now, and I still have to see her at events with the kids, and grandkids.
I STILL wanna kick her in the cooter as hard as I can every time I lay eyes on her.
It goes both ways with verbal, and physical abuse.... (show quote)



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Sep 17, 2020 09:53:07   #
bahmer
 
SWMBO wrote:
We have been very blessed. Over 55 years married and still very much in love.

NPP and SWMBO


Amen and Amen

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Sep 17, 2020 14:27:20   #
Bebida Loc: Michigan
 
archie bunker wrote:
It goes both ways with verbal, and physical abuse. My first wife was a stone cold b***h who used both.

I only laid a hand on her once after warning her that if she hit me again, she was gonna get it back. Well, soon enough, she lost her temper, and punched me with a closed fist on the ear since I dodged. Otherwise, it would have been square in the mouth.
I slapped her with an open hand, and less than half my power. She folded like a cheap lawnchair, and called me a wifebeater.

Long story short, I won custody of the kids, the property, and livestock after a 3 1/2 hour court battle. This was in 1996 in Texas.
She never paid a dime in child support though, and for some reason, I couldn't get them to go after her for it.
She's on husband #5 now, and I still have to see her at events with the kids, and grandkids.
I STILL wanna kick her in the cooter as hard as I can every time I lay eyes on her.
It goes both ways with verbal, and physical abuse.... (show quote)


Just DON'T unless she kicks you FIRST!! Then LET HER HAVE IT!!! But you know, you have moved on and have a beautiful wife that you love and she loves you, and you are happy. THAT has to REALLY GRATE on her nerves everytime you are both at those get-togethers!!! I would really play that up anytime I could in front of her!!! She won't sleep for a MONTH, she will be SO MAD!!

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Sep 17, 2020 18:15:32   #
son of witless
 
archie bunker wrote:
It goes both ways with verbal, and physical abuse. My first wife was a stone cold b***h who used both.

I only laid a hand on her once after warning her that if she hit me again, she was gonna get it back. Well, soon enough, she lost her temper, and punched me with a closed fist on the ear since I dodged. Otherwise, it would have been square in the mouth.
I slapped her with an open hand, and less than half my power. She folded like a cheap lawnchair, and called me a wifebeater.

Long story short, I won custody of the kids, the property, and livestock after a 3 1/2 hour court battle. This was in 1996 in Texas.
She never paid a dime in child support though, and for some reason, I couldn't get them to go after her for it.
She's on husband #5 now, and I still have to see her at events with the kids, and grandkids.
I STILL wanna kick her in the cooter as hard as I can every time I lay eyes on her.
It goes both ways with verbal, and physical abuse.... (show quote)


So 5 guys thought she was marriageable ? Wow.

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Sep 17, 2020 22:14:49   #
archie bunker Loc: Texas
 
Bebida wrote:
Just DON'T unless she kicks you FIRST!! Then LET HER HAVE IT!!! But you know, you have moved on and have a beautiful wife that you love and she loves you, and you are happy. THAT has to REALLY GRATE on her nerves everytime you are both at those get-togethers!!! I would really play that up anytime I could in front of her!!! She won't sleep for a MONTH, she will be SO MAD!!


Nah. She ain't worth it.

And what you stated is accurate. She once said to me that.....quote: "You just never thought your kids and your ex would do better than you."

So I know it eats her. And Mrs. Bunker treats her like everyone else. With kindness, and respect. Now that we're past all of the ugliness of when we first married.

Lol! I remember some conversations between the two of them. Always on the phone since my ex knows she can't back up her mouth.

One of my all time favorite quotes from Mrs. B. was "Come on. I'll kick you in your mfking head."

Stated calmly, and with a sweet Texas accent.

I really wanted to see that, but it never happened.


Ah well, life is good anyway!

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Sep 17, 2020 22:47:42   #
Tug484
 
archie bunker wrote:
Nah. She ain't worth it.

And what you stated is accurate. She once said to me that.....quote: "You just never thought your kids and your ex would do better than you."

So I know it eats her. And Mrs. Bunker treats her like everyone else. With kindness, and respect. Now that we're past all of the ugliness of when we first married.

Lol! I remember some conversations between the two of them. Always on the phone since my ex knows she can't back up her mouth.

One of my all time favorite quotes from Mrs. B. was "Come on. I'll kick you in your mfking head."

Stated calmly, and with a sweet Texas accent.

I really wanted to see that, but it never happened.


Ah well, life is good anyway!
Nah. She ain't worth it. br br And what you stat... (show quote)



I feel like my second husband was married to that one.
Sounds nasty like his ex I had to deal with.

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