How would you respond if this happened to you?
Mar 17, 2019 19:18:25 #
I am living in Tombstone, Az and went to the only Circle K in town with my girlfriend.
I was getting some Coca-Cola, my favorite soft drink, when a person from spanish decent, pushy as all get out, turned to my girlfriend and said, "Excuse me, Gringo". How would you respond?
The reason why I ask this question is simply because, in this environment of hyper-extended sensitivity, I would really like to know how you guys would handle this. The expression "Gringo" is just as discriminatory and just as h**eful as other words like, "Spick," or "Wetback", or the granddaddy of all h**e words, "N---r". Now, if anyone uses any of these r****t phrases in public, should they be punished?
How would you handle this situation? How would you be equal?
I was getting some Coca-Cola, my favorite soft drink, when a person from spanish decent, pushy as all get out, turned to my girlfriend and said, "Excuse me, Gringo". How would you respond?
The reason why I ask this question is simply because, in this environment of hyper-extended sensitivity, I would really like to know how you guys would handle this. The expression "Gringo" is just as discriminatory and just as h**eful as other words like, "Spick," or "Wetback", or the granddaddy of all h**e words, "N---r". Now, if anyone uses any of these r****t phrases in public, should they be punished?
How would you handle this situation? How would you be equal?
Mar 17, 2019 19:28:59 #
Ranger7374 wrote:
I am living in Tombstone, Az and went to the only ... (show quote)
I don't consider the term rude in and of itself...
It would depend on the demeanor and tone of the speaker....
I would probably respond with sarcasm... Something along the lines of "she's a gringa, not a gringo, get your g****rs straight... Be a Mexican, not a Mexican't..."
Oh... And who drinks cola on St. Patty's?
Mar 17, 2019 19:33:02 #
For me, it would be the tone of his voice as to whether or not I did anything or not. If he was acting aggressively and my wife, girlfriend were out of the way, I might take him to task, might slap both ears so hard at the same time, he would fall on his butt. I do not get in arguments, h**e noise.
Mar 17, 2019 19:36:06 #
Ranger7374 wrote:
I am living in Tombstone, Az and went to the only ... (show quote)
I would respond with a single word: No!
Mar 17, 2019 19:36:11 #
Canuckus Deploracus wrote:
I don't consider the term rude in and of itself...
It would depend on the demeanor and tone of the speaker....
I would probably respond with sarcasm... Something along the lines of "she's a gringa, not a gringo, get your g****rs straight... Be a Mexican, not a Mexican't..."
Oh... And who drinks cola on St. Patty's?
It would depend on the demeanor and tone of the speaker....
I would probably respond with sarcasm... Something along the lines of "she's a gringa, not a gringo, get your g****rs straight... Be a Mexican, not a Mexican't..."
Oh... And who drinks cola on St. Patty's?
needed the Coca-cola for the Irish Wiskey....
Mar 17, 2019 19:43:05 #
Ranger7374 wrote:
needed the Coca-cola for the Irish Wiskey....
Well done
Mar 17, 2019 19:46:30 #
Boo_Boo
Loc: Jellystone
Ranger7374 wrote:
I am living in Tombstone, Az and went to the only ... (show quote)
The parameters of the circumstances is limited in your description. So, it depends on what else happened, did the woman speak any English? Did she step on your girlfriend's foot or cut through the line.... Or was she just being rude to everyone who was not hispanic? It is possible that she intended no offense.... How would I have handled it, I would simply say Lo sentimos, estamos en los Estados Unidos y hablamos inglés. Conozco a algunos tutores que pueden ayudarte a aprender el idioma y eso te permitirá reunirte mejor en los EE. UU. Meaning "Sorry, we are in the USA and we speak English. I know a few tutors who can help you learn the language and that would allow you to better assimilate into the US." This is not rude and should not offend the woman, but you can get your point across.... suggestion, get your favorite come back line printed on some business cards and the next time, hand the offender the card while asking if they can read "Spanish." (Saves us Gringos from having to try to roll the "r").
Mar 17, 2019 19:53:33 #
Ranger7374 wrote:
I am living in Tombstone, Az and went to the only ... (show quote)
What was he asking to be excused for? In front of you or behind?
Depending on what was up, "What's up Cabron" could work.
Mar 17, 2019 19:55:05 #
Ranger7374 wrote:
I would have said, Estas excusado puto.I am living in Tombstone, Az and went to the only ... (show quote)
Mar 17, 2019 19:59:17 #
Pennylynn wrote:
The parameters of the circumstances is limited in ... (show quote)
The parameters of the circumstances is what I wrote. If you need more detail, I can say the store was getting crowded and there was a few people over at the fountain drinks. The area is cramped. The woman who said what she said was probably in her twenties or younger. And her male friend was nice and waiting patiently as I filled up my 100 oz cup with the soda. I then stopped filling my cup, and let him fill his, when he was finished, I finished filling up my cup. He was thankful she was not. The incident I described was unprovoked. If it was provoked then I would have expected the comment. But unprovoked after I gave a kind jester. You judge.
Mar 17, 2019 20:02:41 #
woodguru wrote:
What was he asking to be excused for? In front of you or behind?
Depending on what was up, "What's up Cabron" could work.
Depending on what was up, "What's up Cabron" could work.
It wasn't the guy, he was cool. It was the woman.
Mar 17, 2019 20:15:43 #
Boo_Boo
Loc: Jellystone
Ranger7374 wrote:
The parameters of the circumstances is what I wrot... (show quote)
Taking in consideration of her age, she probably thought she was "entitled" to have the same treatment as her friend. So, her behavior would merit a classy American "kind gesture." Ranging from totally ignoring her or smiling and telling her something that would completely consume her two brain cells for the rest of the day... something like, I hope rest of your day is as pleasant as you are. By the time she figured it out, you would be ready to fill your cup again. Or just laugh in her face.... both responses would put her in her place..... no better than anyone else at the Circle K.
Mar 17, 2019 20:18:23 #
Ranger7374 wrote:
It wasn't the guy, he was cool. It was the woman.
If it were a woman I would change my answer..
Perhaps a more gentlemanly gesture... Allow her to go first...
Although it sounds as though that is the path you took... Well done
Mar 17, 2019 20:21:17 #
Mar 17, 2019 21:58:02 #
Ranger7374 wrote:
I am living in Tombstone, Az and went to the only ... (show quote)
In both Spanish and Portugease Gringo refers to a foreigner, both languages have both masculine and feminine tenses the latter being gringa. So the woman simply pardoned herself and refered to the woman you were with as a male foreigner. I guess this could be taken as an insult that she mistook your partner for a man but in this day all people linguistically are post g****r as you showed by using the term “you guys” when addressing a forum that both women and men belong. Except to the truly backward thinkers, beyond that there is little offense in the term. And of course that part of the world was populated first by the indigenous people and then by Spanish speaking people and they rightfully consider the newer residents as foreigners. In a nutshell neither of you have a thing to be pissing and moaning about.
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