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pafret Loc: Northeast

"8 Things That People With High Emotional Intelligence Simply Don’t Do"

Posted: 14 Mar 2017 01:18 AM PDT

by Justin Gammilli

"In life, emotions can be like the winds that blow us off track on the path to achieving whatever it is that we want to accomplish. That is why, in my opinion, of all of the life skill that a person can possess, emotional intelligence is as important as mental intelligence when it comes to being successful. That being said, emotional intelligence is tricky. It is all about keeping your emotions in check, instead of letting them rule your life. You have to understand your emotions as a tool, and not as a burden. Again, this is all easier said than done, so here are 8 things to keep in mind that emotionally intelligent people don’t do.

1. Their Emotional Base is Not External: One key to emotional intelligence is understanding that your feelings are not someone else’s fault. They are your own. You can’t expect people to always know how you will emotionally react to something, or for them to even care for that matter. An action by someone else may make you feel a way that they did not intend, so you have to realize that it is YOUR responsibility to handle the emotional response correctly.

2. They Make No Assumptions About Happiness or What Creates It: The funny thing about happiness is that it is an infinite value. When we think about happiness, we relate it to experiences in our past, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t achieve a level of happiness greater than anything we’ve ever known. Therefore, emotionally intelligent people understand that moving forward and experiencing new things is the only way to achieve anything resembling “true” happiness.

3. They Understand that Fear is a Normal Emotion to New Things: Fear, for the most part, in new experiences is totally normal. People are often way too quick to assume that just because something scares you that it is a bad thing. Being reckless and being fearless are two different things. Fear is just a way for your mind to make you consider what it is that is going on, so keep it in check.

4. They Understand that an Emotions are Reactions, Not Reality: Understanding that how you feel is not the defining characteristic of a situation is probably the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. It is also the hardest to realize in the heat of the moment. Understanding that your emotions are what they are for a reason that is specific to you is important.

5. They Don’t Assume that a Bad Feeling Leads to a Bad Life: One very obvious sign of high emotional intelligence in understanding that we can’t all be happy all of the time. Just because you are having a bad day doesn’t mean that your life is falling apart. It means that a certain number of factors have conspired together to make you have a bad day. Happiness is a choice, but that doesn’t mean that we have to choose it every time.

6. They Don’t Befriend Easily: One of the most important things in life is who you choose to surround yourself with. Being aware of how other people make you feel and why is critical to making good choices when it comes to friends. Again, much like all aspects of emotional intelligence, this isn’t something that happens overnight.

7. They Don’t Associate Composure with Emotional Intelligence: Just because you are emotionally intelligent, that doesn’t mean that you don’t occasionally lose it. We all do. Being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean you are an emotionless robot. It just means that you know how you feel, why you feel that way, and deal with it accordingly.

8. They Choose Their Own Thoughts: Emotionally intelligent people are often seen as stubborn. This is because they own their thoughts and emotions equally, with a deep understanding of how others influence their emotions. It’s not as much stubborn as it is picky."
- http://www.riseearth.com/

bobebgtime Loc: Virginia

Very good and spot on, Thanks

eden

pafret wrote:

"8 Things That People With High Emotional Intelligence Simply Don’t Do"

Posted: 14 Mar 2017 01:18 AM PDT

by Justin Gammilli

"In life, emotions can be like the winds that blow us off track on the path to achieving whatever it is that we want to accomplish. That is why, in my opinion, of all of the life skill that a person can possess, emotional intelligence is as important as mental intelligence when it comes to being successful. That being said, emotional intelligence is tricky. It is all about keeping your emotions in check, instead of letting them rule your life. You have to understand your emotions as a tool, and not as a burden. Again, this is all easier said than done, so here are 8 things to keep in mind that emotionally intelligent people don’t do.

1. Their Emotional Base is Not External: One key to emotional intelligence is understanding that your feelings are not someone else’s fault. They are your own. You can’t expect people to always know how you will emotionally react to something, or for them to even care for that matter. An action by someone else may make you feel a way that they did not intend, so you have to realize that it is YOUR responsibility to handle the emotional response correctly.

2. They Make No Assumptions About Happiness or What Creates It: The funny thing about happiness is that it is an infinite value. When we think about happiness, we relate it to experiences in our past, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t achieve a level of happiness greater than anything we’ve ever known. Therefore, emotionally intelligent people understand that moving forward and experiencing new things is the only way to achieve anything resembling “true” happiness.

3. They Understand that Fear is a Normal Emotion to New Things: Fear, for the most part, in new experiences is totally normal. People are often way too quick to assume that just because something scares you that it is a bad thing. Being reckless and being fearless are two different things. Fear is just a way for your mind to make you consider what it is that is going on, so keep it in check.

4. They Understand that an Emotions are Reactions, Not Reality: Understanding that how you feel is not the defining characteristic of a situation is probably the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. It is also the hardest to realize in the heat of the moment. Understanding that your emotions are what they are for a reason that is specific to you is important.

5. They Don’t Assume that a Bad Feeling Leads to a Bad Life: One very obvious sign of high emotional intelligence in understanding that we can’t all be happy all of the time. Just because you are having a bad day doesn’t mean that your life is falling apart. It means that a certain number of factors have conspired together to make you have a bad day. Happiness is a choice, but that doesn’t mean that we have to choose it every time.

6. They Don’t Befriend Easily: One of the most important things in life is who you choose to surround yourself with. Being aware of how other people make you feel and why is critical to making good choices when it comes to friends. Again, much like all aspects of emotional intelligence, this isn’t something that happens overnight.

7. They Don’t Associate Composure with Emotional Intelligence: Just because you are emotionally intelligent, that doesn’t mean that you don’t occasionally lose it. We all do. Being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean you are an emotionless robot. It just means that you know how you feel, why you feel that way, and deal with it accordingly.

8. They Choose Their Own Thoughts: Emotionally intelligent people are often seen as stubborn. This is because they own their thoughts and emotions equally, with a deep understanding of how others influence their emotions. It’s not as much stubborn as it is picky."
- http://www.riseearth.com/

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Appreciate the thoughtful post. Nice change for this site.

Singularity

pafret wrote:

"8 Things That People With High Emotional Intelligence Simply Don’t Do"

Posted: 14 Mar 2017 01:18 AM PDT

by Justin Gammilli

"In life, emotions can be like the winds that blow us off track on the path to achieving whatever it is that we want to accomplish. That is why, in my opinion, of all of the life skill that a person can possess, emotional intelligence is as important as mental intelligence when it comes to being successful. That being said, emotional intelligence is tricky. It is all about keeping your emotions in check, instead of letting them rule your life. You have to understand your emotions as a tool, and not as a burden. Again, this is all easier said than done, so here are 8 things to keep in mind that emotionally intelligent people don’t do.

1. Their Emotional Base is Not External: One key to emotional intelligence is understanding that your feelings are not someone else’s fault. They are your own. You can’t expect people to always know how you will emotionally react to something, or for them to even care for that matter. An action by someone else may make you feel a way that they did not intend, so you have to realize that it is YOUR responsibility to handle the emotional response correctly.

2. They Make No Assumptions About Happiness or What Creates It: The funny thing about happiness is that it is an infinite value. When we think about happiness, we relate it to experiences in our past, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t achieve a level of happiness greater than anything we’ve ever known. Therefore, emotionally intelligent people understand that moving forward and experiencing new things is the only way to achieve anything resembling “true” happiness.

3. They Understand that Fear is a Normal Emotion to New Things: Fear, for the most part, in new experiences is totally normal. People are often way too quick to assume that just because something scares you that it is a bad thing. Being reckless and being fearless are two different things. Fear is just a way for your mind to make you consider what it is that is going on, so keep it in check.

4. They Understand that an Emotions are Reactions, Not Reality: Understanding that how you feel is not the defining characteristic of a situation is probably the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. It is also the hardest to realize in the heat of the moment. Understanding that your emotions are what they are for a reason that is specific to you is important.

5. They Don’t Assume that a Bad Feeling Leads to a Bad Life: One very obvious sign of high emotional intelligence in understanding that we can’t all be happy all of the time. Just because you are having a bad day doesn’t mean that your life is falling apart. It means that a certain number of factors have conspired together to make you have a bad day. Happiness is a choice, but that doesn’t mean that we have to choose it every time.

6. They Don’t Befriend Easily: One of the most important things in life is who you choose to surround yourself with. Being aware of how other people make you feel and why is critical to making good choices when it comes to friends. Again, much like all aspects of emotional intelligence, this isn’t something that happens overnight.

7. They Don’t Associate Composure with Emotional Intelligence: Just because you are emotionally intelligent, that doesn’t mean that you don’t occasionally lose it. We all do. Being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean you are an emotionless robot. It just means that you know how you feel, why you feel that way, and deal with it accordingly.

8. They Choose Their Own Thoughts: Emotionally intelligent people are often seen as stubborn. This is because they own their thoughts and emotions equally, with a deep understanding of how others influence their emotions. It’s not as much stubborn as it is picky."
- http://www.riseearth.com/

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One of my favorite anonymous quotes, about feelings, it's depth of meaning usually missed, is as follows:

"I feel more like I do now than I did a while ago."

Thanks for a thoughtful post.

Sassy Lass

pafret wrote:

"8 Things That People With High Emotional Intelligence Simply Don’t Do"

Posted: 14 Mar 2017 01:18 AM PDT

by Justin Gammilli

"In life, emotions can be like the winds that blow us off track on the path to achieving whatever it is that we want to accomplish. That is why, in my opinion, of all of the life skill that a person can possess, emotional intelligence is as important as mental intelligence when it comes to being successful. That being said, emotional intelligence is tricky. It is all about keeping your emotions in check, instead of letting them rule your life. You have to understand your emotions as a tool, and not as a burden. Again, this is all easier said than done, so here are 8 things to keep in mind that emotionally intelligent people don’t do.

1. Their Emotional Base is Not External: One key to emotional intelligence is understanding that your feelings are not someone else’s fault. They are your own. You can’t expect people to always know how you will emotionally react to something, or for them to even care for that matter. An action by someone else may make you feel a way that they did not intend, so you have to realize that it is YOUR responsibility to handle the emotional response correctly.

2. They Make No Assumptions About Happiness or What Creates It: The funny thing about happiness is that it is an infinite value. When we think about happiness, we relate it to experiences in our past, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t achieve a level of happiness greater than anything we’ve ever known. Therefore, emotionally intelligent people understand that moving forward and experiencing new things is the only way to achieve anything resembling “true” happiness.

3. They Understand that Fear is a Normal Emotion to New Things: Fear, for the most part, in new experiences is totally normal. People are often way too quick to assume that just because something scares you that it is a bad thing. Being reckless and being fearless are two different things. Fear is just a way for your mind to make you consider what it is that is going on, so keep it in check.

4. They Understand that an Emotions are Reactions, Not Reality: Understanding that how you feel is not the defining characteristic of a situation is probably the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. It is also the hardest to realize in the heat of the moment. Understanding that your emotions are what they are for a reason that is specific to you is important.

5. They Don’t Assume that a Bad Feeling Leads to a Bad Life: One very obvious sign of high emotional intelligence in understanding that we can’t all be happy all of the time. Just because you are having a bad day doesn’t mean that your life is falling apart. It means that a certain number of factors have conspired together to make you have a bad day. Happiness is a choice, but that doesn’t mean that we have to choose it every time.

6. They Don’t Befriend Easily: One of the most important things in life is who you choose to surround yourself with. Being aware of how other people make you feel and why is critical to making good choices when it comes to friends. Again, much like all aspects of emotional intelligence, this isn’t something that happens overnight.

7. They Don’t Associate Composure with Emotional Intelligence: Just because you are emotionally intelligent, that doesn’t mean that you don’t occasionally lose it. We all do. Being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean you are an emotionless robot. It just means that you know how you feel, why you feel that way, and deal with it accordingly.

8. They Choose Their Own Thoughts: Emotionally intelligent people are often seen as stubborn. This is because they own their thoughts and emotions equally, with a deep understanding of how others influence their emotions. It’s not as much stubborn as it is picky."
- http://www.riseearth.com/

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Very nicely done. Thank you.

pafret Loc: Northeast

Singularity wrote:

One of my favorite anonymous quotes, about feelings, it's depth of meaning usually missed, is as follows:

"I feel more like I do now than I did a while ago."

Thanks for a thoughtful post.

Thanks, good laugh!

QuestGirl Loc: Jayhawk Country

pafret wrote:

"8 Things That People With High Emotional Intelligence Simply Don’t Do"

Posted: 14 Mar 2017 01:18 AM PDT

by Justin Gammilli

"In life, emotions can be like the winds that blow us off track on the path to achieving whatever it is that we want to accomplish. That is why, in my opinion, of all of the life skill that a person can possess, emotional intelligence is as important as mental intelligence when it comes to being successful. That being said, emotional intelligence is tricky. It is all about keeping your emotions in check, instead of letting them rule your life. You have to understand your emotions as a tool, and not as a burden. Again, this is all easier said than done, so here are 8 things to keep in mind that emotionally intelligent people don’t do.

1. Their Emotional Base is Not External: One key to emotional intelligence is understanding that your feelings are not someone else’s fault. They are your own. You can’t expect people to always know how you will emotionally react to something, or for them to even care for that matter. An action by someone else may make you feel a way that they did not intend, so you have to realize that it is YOUR responsibility to handle the emotional response correctly.

2. They Make No Assumptions About Happiness or What Creates It: The funny thing about happiness is that it is an infinite value. When we think about happiness, we relate it to experiences in our past, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t achieve a level of happiness greater than anything we’ve ever known. Therefore, emotionally intelligent people understand that moving forward and experiencing new things is the only way to achieve anything resembling “true” happiness.

3. They Understand that Fear is a Normal Emotion to New Things: Fear, for the most part, in new experiences is totally normal. People are often way too quick to assume that just because something scares you that it is a bad thing. Being reckless and being fearless are two different things. Fear is just a way for your mind to make you consider what it is that is going on, so keep it in check.

4. They Understand that an Emotions are Reactions, Not Reality: Understanding that how you feel is not the defining characteristic of a situation is probably the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. It is also the hardest to realize in the heat of the moment. Understanding that your emotions are what they are for a reason that is specific to you is important.

5. They Don’t Assume that a Bad Feeling Leads to a Bad Life: One very obvious sign of high emotional intelligence in understanding that we can’t all be happy all of the time. Just because you are having a bad day doesn’t mean that your life is falling apart. It means that a certain number of factors have conspired together to make you have a bad day. Happiness is a choice, but that doesn’t mean that we have to choose it every time.

6. They Don’t Befriend Easily: One of the most important things in life is who you choose to surround yourself with. Being aware of how other people make you feel and why is critical to making good choices when it comes to friends. Again, much like all aspects of emotional intelligence, this isn’t something that happens overnight.

7. They Don’t Associate Composure with Emotional Intelligence: Just because you are emotionally intelligent, that doesn’t mean that you don’t occasionally lose it. We all do. Being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean you are an emotionless robot. It just means that you know how you feel, why you feel that way, and deal with it accordingly.

8. They Choose Their Own Thoughts: Emotionally intelligent people are often seen as stubborn. This is because they own their thoughts and emotions equally, with a deep understanding of how others influence their emotions. It’s not as much stubborn as it is picky."
- http://www.riseearth.com/

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Number One is a hellofa burden lifter! That was the day I grew-the hell up! I am NOT responsible for how YOU feel! Oh, the stench of oppression, be gone!

nwtk2007 Loc: Texas

pafret wrote:

"8 Things That People With High Emotional Intelligence Simply Don’t Do"

Posted: 14 Mar 2017 01:18 AM PDT

by Justin Gammilli

"In life, emotions can be like the winds that blow us off track on the path to achieving whatever it is that we want to accomplish. That is why, in my opinion, of all of the life skill that a person can possess, emotional intelligence is as important as mental intelligence when it comes to being successful. That being said, emotional intelligence is tricky. It is all about keeping your emotions in check, instead of letting them rule your life. You have to understand your emotions as a tool, and not as a burden. Again, this is all easier said than done, so here are 8 things to keep in mind that emotionally intelligent people don’t do.

1. Their Emotional Base is Not External: One key to emotional intelligence is understanding that your feelings are not someone else’s fault. They are your own. You can’t expect people to always know how you will emotionally react to something, or for them to even care for that matter. An action by someone else may make you feel a way that they did not intend, so you have to realize that it is YOUR responsibility to handle the emotional response correctly.

2. They Make No Assumptions About Happiness or What Creates It: The funny thing about happiness is that it is an infinite value. When we think about happiness, we relate it to experiences in our past, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t achieve a level of happiness greater than anything we’ve ever known. Therefore, emotionally intelligent people understand that moving forward and experiencing new things is the only way to achieve anything resembling “true” happiness.

3. They Understand that Fear is a Normal Emotion to New Things: Fear, for the most part, in new experiences is totally normal. People are often way too quick to assume that just because something scares you that it is a bad thing. Being reckless and being fearless are two different things. Fear is just a way for your mind to make you consider what it is that is going on, so keep it in check.

4. They Understand that an Emotions are Reactions, Not Reality: Understanding that how you feel is not the defining characteristic of a situation is probably the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. It is also the hardest to realize in the heat of the moment. Understanding that your emotions are what they are for a reason that is specific to you is important.

5. They Don’t Assume that a Bad Feeling Leads to a Bad Life: One very obvious sign of high emotional intelligence in understanding that we can’t all be happy all of the time. Just because you are having a bad day doesn’t mean that your life is falling apart. It means that a certain number of factors have conspired together to make you have a bad day. Happiness is a choice, but that doesn’t mean that we have to choose it every time.

6. They Don’t Befriend Easily: One of the most important things in life is who you choose to surround yourself with. Being aware of how other people make you feel and why is critical to making good choices when it comes to friends. Again, much like all aspects of emotional intelligence, this isn’t something that happens overnight.

7. They Don’t Associate Composure with Emotional Intelligence: Just because you are emotionally intelligent, that doesn’t mean that you don’t occasionally lose it. We all do. Being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean you are an emotionless robot. It just means that you know how you feel, why you feel that way, and deal with it accordingly.

8. They Choose Their Own Thoughts: Emotionally intelligent people are often seen as stubborn. This is because they own their thoughts and emotions equally, with a deep understanding of how others influence their emotions. It’s not as much stubborn as it is picky."
- http://www.riseearth.com/

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Good stuff. The opposite of each point describes a five year old I know to a tee.

pafret Loc: Northeast

nwtk2007 wrote:

Good stuff. The opposite of each point describes a five year old I know to a tee.

Yes, this list is a good guideline for maturity. Not following these precepts would characterize a person as childish.

QuestGirl Loc: Jayhawk Country

nwtk2007 wrote:

Good stuff. The opposite of each point describes a five year old I know to a tee.

The real age 5 year olds aren't the problem. It is expected behavior at the age. It's those 5 year olds disguised as adults. There are far too many of them. I know, I was raised under a pak of 'em, all female too. Sadly, in our day and age, many boys are raised under the same mentality. I'm a traitor to my gender, I know.

pafret Loc: Northeast

QuestGirl wrote:

The real age 5 year olds aren't the problem. It is expected behavior at the age. It's those 5 year olds disguised as adults. There are far too many of them. I know, I was raised under a pak of 'em, all female too. Sadly, in our day and age, many boys are raised under the same mentality. I'm a traitor to my gender, I know.

Sounds more like you're an apostle of rationality.

QuestGirl Loc: Jayhawk Country

pafret wrote:

Sounds more like you're an apostle of rationality.

Hardly relevant when the adults in the room have less sense than the child. It took me to age 40 to determine what was wrong...with me of course.

nwtk2007 Loc: Texas

QuestGirl wrote:

The real age 5 year olds aren't the problem. It is expected behavior at the age. It's those 5 year olds disguised as adults. There are far too many of them. I know, I was raised under a pak of 'em, all female too. Sadly, in our day and age, many boys are raised under the same mentality. I'm a traitor to my gender, I know.

You just prefer less feminism. It's understandable.

You're right about the "adult" five year olds. But in reading your list, I was struck by how it sounded so much like this little five year old I am helping to raise these days. I don't have the vocabulary to describe adequately her behavior, but now, I can just think of the opposite of this list and go from there. much of it is attention getting behavior and seems to fit perfectly with the snowflakes these days.

QuestGirl Loc: Jayhawk Country

nwtk2007 wrote:

You just prefer less feminism. It's understandable.

You're right about the "adult" five year olds. But in reading your list, I was struck by how it sounded so much like this little five year old I am helping to raise these days. I don't have the vocabulary to describe adequately her behavior, but now, I can just think of the opposite of this list and go from there. much of it is attention getting behavior and seems to fit perfectly with the snowflakes these days.

Enjoy that age as much as you can. It only gets more idiotic as time progresses. I can't tell you how many times I said, "Why am I arguing with a 10 year old?" I was a alone. There was no one to say, "Because your mother said, that's why." Even the other children in the neighborhood understood that edict.

nwtk2007 Loc: Texas

QuestGirl wrote:

Enjoy that age as much as you can. It only gets more idiotic as time progresses. I can't tell you how many times I said, "Why am I arguing with a 10 year old?" I was a alone. There was no one to say, "Because your mother said, that's why." Even the other children in the neighborhood understood that edict.

I raised a couple of girls so I know what you mean. They were different from each other, though. One spared me the angst, the other didn't. But definitely, the best memories were from the four to ten or eleven years of age.